1 00:00:00,000 --> 00:00:01,640 evening from all of 2 00:00:01,640 --> 00:00:03,360 You're actually way too hot. I'm actually not happy. 3 00:00:03,400 --> 00:00:04,760 (LAUGHTER) 4 00:00:04,800 --> 00:00:07,640 NARRATOR: 20 singles across Australia... 5 00:00:07,680 --> 00:00:09,040 Will you marry me? 6 00:00:09,080 --> 00:00:11,600 ..took the ultimate leap of faith. 7 00:00:11,640 --> 00:00:15,120 MORENA: I think I've hit the jackpot today. He's just divine. 8 00:00:15,160 --> 00:00:17,480 JAMIE: The experts deserve a bloody raise. 9 00:00:17,520 --> 00:00:19,920 I'm just full of freaking, like, love. 10 00:00:20,880 --> 00:00:22,440 NARRATOR: During confessions week... 11 00:00:22,480 --> 00:00:24,960 I hope you would have picked up the phone. 12 00:00:26,840 --> 00:00:28,920 ..some bravely opened up. 13 00:00:28,960 --> 00:00:31,560 I hope me telling you this doesn't push you away 14 00:00:31,600 --> 00:00:35,800 and it gives you a better understanding of me as a person. 15 00:00:36,880 --> 00:00:38,440 You didn't write a letter at all? 16 00:00:38,480 --> 00:00:39,600 No. 17 00:00:39,640 --> 00:00:41,560 NARRATOR: While others struggled. 18 00:00:41,600 --> 00:00:43,320 End of. That's it. There's nothing else to it. 19 00:00:43,360 --> 00:00:44,480 Don't "End of" me. 20 00:00:44,520 --> 00:00:46,680 Don't "End of" me. There's nothing more. 21 00:00:46,720 --> 00:00:47,560 DAVE: Jesus! 22 00:00:47,600 --> 00:00:50,280 NARRATOR: Intimacy week... Pack up, boys! 23 00:00:50,320 --> 00:00:51,960 ..brought out both the best... 24 00:00:52,000 --> 00:00:54,320 RHI: I could see myself falling for Jeff. 25 00:00:54,360 --> 00:00:55,560 TONY: That really felt nice 26 00:00:55,600 --> 00:00:57,960 to just have that connection with her there. 27 00:00:58,000 --> 00:01:00,720 ..and worst in our couples. 28 00:01:00,760 --> 00:01:03,280 I made the mistake. You've told me not to talk. 29 00:01:03,320 --> 00:01:05,200 How hard is it to just be like, 30 00:01:05,240 --> 00:01:08,880 "Hey, I made a mistake. You're gorgeous." Like... 31 00:01:10,400 --> 00:01:12,440 NARRATOR: And a fiery dinner party... 32 00:01:12,480 --> 00:01:14,160 I'm not done with you, little boy. 33 00:01:14,200 --> 00:01:16,000 No, no, listen, listen. 34 00:01:16,040 --> 00:01:19,040 I will never settle for less, ever! Ever! 35 00:01:19,080 --> 00:01:22,560 ..saw Adrian shut down Awhina once again. 36 00:01:22,600 --> 00:01:24,560 I am a mum and always looking to the future. 37 00:01:24,600 --> 00:01:25,840 Anyways, Jeff and Rhi, everyone. 38 00:01:25,880 --> 00:01:27,720 (LAUGHTER) Now, it's their turn! 39 00:01:27,760 --> 00:01:29,600 He's being really childish here 40 00:01:29,640 --> 00:01:31,480 by going to the other end of the table. 41 00:01:31,520 --> 00:01:34,520 He's just showing he doesn't have the maturity she's looking for. 42 00:01:36,080 --> 00:01:37,080 NARRATOR: Tonight... 43 00:01:37,120 --> 00:01:39,320 Adrian, what you're doing is the problem 44 00:01:39,360 --> 00:01:41,480 and I'm going to call you on it. 45 00:01:41,520 --> 00:01:45,440 Awhina's opened her heart and you're sitting here looking at the roof. 46 00:01:45,480 --> 00:01:48,400 NARRATOR: The experts deliver hard truths. 47 00:01:48,440 --> 00:01:51,960 When you want to get things off your chest, you point 48 00:01:52,000 --> 00:01:55,160 and you get very much in someone's face. 49 00:01:55,200 --> 00:01:57,920 Your fight style can be difficult to listen to. 50 00:01:57,960 --> 00:01:59,440 How does that land for you? 51 00:02:01,320 --> 00:02:05,000 NARRATOR: The benefits of intimacy week will be on full display. 52 00:02:05,040 --> 00:02:06,840 I'd like to thank you, Alessandra, 53 00:02:06,880 --> 00:02:08,720 because I've got to say, it was pretty spicy. 54 00:02:08,760 --> 00:02:09,840 (LAUGHTER) 55 00:02:09,880 --> 00:02:12,320 I feel safe, I feel secure, I feel happy. 56 00:02:12,360 --> 00:02:13,720 Like, tick, tick, tick. 57 00:02:13,760 --> 00:02:14,880 Yes! 58 00:02:16,520 --> 00:02:17,440 NARRATOR: Before... 59 00:02:17,480 --> 00:02:20,480 Sierah, have you opened up to anybody else in the group? 60 00:02:20,520 --> 00:02:23,720 ..Sierah's almighty bombshell. 61 00:02:25,200 --> 00:02:26,320 Ah... 62 00:02:26,360 --> 00:02:28,240 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 63 00:02:28,280 --> 00:02:30,360 BILLY: Sorry? What? 64 00:02:30,400 --> 00:02:32,520 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 65 00:02:38,560 --> 00:02:41,560 (GRAND EXCITING MUSIC) 66 00:02:50,640 --> 00:02:53,440 NARRATOR: It's the morning of the second commitment ceremony... 67 00:02:54,560 --> 00:02:56,000 Wow, this is really good. 68 00:02:56,040 --> 00:02:57,920 Is it? You like it? Good. 69 00:02:57,960 --> 00:03:00,640 It's going to be a very, very interesting evening. 70 00:03:00,680 --> 00:03:02,680 I wish Riles could come. 71 00:03:02,720 --> 00:03:04,080 Riles! He can. 72 00:03:04,120 --> 00:03:06,680 ..and Intimacy Week is coming to an end. 73 00:03:07,600 --> 00:03:09,000 (CHUCKLES) You look tired. 74 00:03:09,040 --> 00:03:10,880 I am. (LAUGHS) 75 00:03:10,920 --> 00:03:12,280 I could sleep till Christmas. 76 00:03:12,320 --> 00:03:13,440 (LAUGHS) 77 00:03:13,480 --> 00:03:15,680 Me and Rhi are in a great place at the moment. 78 00:03:15,720 --> 00:03:18,360 Intimacy Week, I feel like it's brought us closer together 79 00:03:18,400 --> 00:03:20,920 and now I feel like we're cuddling, holding hands, 80 00:03:20,960 --> 00:03:22,960 a couple of little kisses here and there. 81 00:03:23,000 --> 00:03:24,240 We're having a great time and we're moving 82 00:03:24,280 --> 00:03:27,680 in, like, an awesome direction, so I think we're in a good spot. 83 00:03:27,720 --> 00:03:29,120 Ready to get up. 84 00:03:29,160 --> 00:03:32,120 I'm not. (LAUGHS) 85 00:03:32,840 --> 00:03:36,960 NARRATOR: Last night's dinner party has left the couples reeling 86 00:03:37,000 --> 00:03:39,400 and this morning, Jamie and Dave 87 00:03:39,440 --> 00:03:42,920 are still trying to process the up and down nature 88 00:03:42,960 --> 00:03:45,400 of Jacqui and Ryan's relationship. 89 00:03:46,320 --> 00:03:49,440 So, another interesting evening with Jacqui and Ryan. 90 00:03:49,480 --> 00:03:51,360 Once again, I'm confused. 91 00:03:51,400 --> 00:03:53,840 Yeah, because they're coming into this 92 00:03:53,880 --> 00:03:57,440 and being really, really united and strong 93 00:03:57,480 --> 00:03:59,000 but then it's just - it just crumbles. 94 00:04:00,120 --> 00:04:01,400 My Lady. 95 00:04:01,440 --> 00:04:05,720 NARRATOR: Jacqui and Ryan entered the dinner party as a united front... 96 00:04:10,880 --> 00:04:12,920 What's happening, kids? 97 00:04:12,960 --> 00:04:14,840 ..and Jacqui surprised the group 98 00:04:14,880 --> 00:04:18,360 by minimising Ryan's comments about her. 99 00:04:18,400 --> 00:04:19,640 What was one of the issues? 100 00:04:19,680 --> 00:04:21,280 Was it Ryan saying that you had crazy eyes? 101 00:04:21,320 --> 00:04:22,960 I do have crazy eyes. I agree. 102 00:04:23,000 --> 00:04:23,880 (LAUGHTER) 103 00:04:23,920 --> 00:04:25,840 I brought my crazy eyes tonight. 104 00:04:25,880 --> 00:04:29,160 NARRATOR: But the couple's united front was short lived 105 00:04:29,200 --> 00:04:34,280 when Jacqui brought up Ryan placing her third in the photo ranking task. 106 00:04:34,320 --> 00:04:35,880 I was triggered when he told me 107 00:04:35,920 --> 00:04:37,840 I was not the most beautiful woman in the world. 108 00:04:40,800 --> 00:04:42,040 You guys have him 109 00:04:42,080 --> 00:04:44,920 because I've had this argument five times with you and I'm done. 110 00:04:49,080 --> 00:04:51,160 Ryan said she had crazy eyes 111 00:04:51,200 --> 00:04:53,760 in the same paragraph that he's saying that she gives good (BLEEP). 112 00:04:53,800 --> 00:04:55,040 It was a put-down comment. 113 00:04:55,080 --> 00:04:58,320 And they say just, like, such heavily weighted comments 114 00:04:58,360 --> 00:05:00,080 which is just bizarre to me. 115 00:05:00,120 --> 00:05:05,320 The way they speak to each other is, like, just kind of unacceptable. 116 00:05:05,360 --> 00:05:09,520 Oh, look, far out. When it comes to Ryan and Jacqui, 117 00:05:09,560 --> 00:05:12,280 I think they are both freaking bonkers. 118 00:05:12,320 --> 00:05:15,320 They're just both two nutcases together. 119 00:05:15,360 --> 00:05:18,800 So, I'm not surprised by anything at this point with them two. 120 00:05:23,640 --> 00:05:26,520 This morning, I woke up to flowers from Ryan. 121 00:05:29,320 --> 00:05:31,120 It's like really lovely that he did that 122 00:05:31,160 --> 00:05:36,000 and I've been asking for flowers from Ryan for a very long time. 123 00:05:36,760 --> 00:05:39,080 You'll be required to buy me flowers at least once a month. 124 00:05:42,440 --> 00:05:44,000 You buying me flowers today 125 00:05:44,040 --> 00:05:46,120 made me feel like the luckiest girl in the world. 126 00:05:47,240 --> 00:05:49,680 As a man, I know how to treat a woman 127 00:05:49,720 --> 00:05:53,200 and really felt like the right time to surprise her. 128 00:05:53,760 --> 00:05:54,880 Very nice of you. 129 00:05:56,000 --> 00:05:57,240 Very nice. 130 00:05:57,280 --> 00:06:00,960 JAMIE: They're the only couple here that can tear into each other 131 00:06:01,000 --> 00:06:03,200 and then go cuddle each other that night. 132 00:06:03,240 --> 00:06:05,320 Would you want to trade me for any other woman? 133 00:06:05,360 --> 00:06:06,560 No. Exactly. 134 00:06:06,600 --> 00:06:07,560 That's how I want to feel. 135 00:06:08,160 --> 00:06:12,200 They are the only two people that understand each other. 136 00:06:12,240 --> 00:06:16,440 From an outsider perspective, from a rational perspective, 137 00:06:16,480 --> 00:06:19,760 from a sanity perspective, I can't make sense of it, 138 00:06:19,800 --> 00:06:21,640 but you know what, it works for them. 139 00:06:23,160 --> 00:06:25,040 I can see them working. 140 00:06:25,080 --> 00:06:26,440 I can see them freaking work. 141 00:06:26,480 --> 00:06:29,800 They will probably end up running off having children together. 142 00:06:29,840 --> 00:06:31,520 Oh, god. No. (LAUGHS) 143 00:06:31,560 --> 00:06:32,760 Please no. 144 00:06:32,800 --> 00:06:35,040 Happy wife, happy life. 145 00:06:37,720 --> 00:06:42,880 NARRATOR: Jacqui may have moved on from last night, but Awhina hasn't. 146 00:06:43,520 --> 00:06:47,920 After sharing her concerns about her future with husband, Adrian, 147 00:06:47,960 --> 00:06:50,640 she was shut down by him in front of the group. 148 00:06:51,680 --> 00:06:54,680 All I'm trying to say is I am a mum, I'm always looking to the future, 149 00:06:54,720 --> 00:06:57,080 and sometimes I say things... Anyway, Jeff and Rhi, everyone. 150 00:06:57,120 --> 00:06:58,840 (LAUGHTER) 151 00:06:58,880 --> 00:07:00,520 BILLY: Oh, don't worry! Now, it's their turn! 152 00:07:00,560 --> 00:07:02,480 No, no, no. It's all good. 153 00:07:02,520 --> 00:07:04,320 Do not close me off like that. 154 00:07:09,080 --> 00:07:10,720 How do you think the dinner party went last night? 155 00:07:12,320 --> 00:07:13,280 Could have went better. 156 00:07:14,120 --> 00:07:15,600 Hmm? Why? 157 00:07:20,240 --> 00:07:21,360 I didn't shut you down. 158 00:07:21,400 --> 00:07:22,840 You said what you felt you needed to say 159 00:07:22,880 --> 00:07:24,080 and then you shut me down. 160 00:07:24,120 --> 00:07:25,440 I said to everyone, I said what you said. 161 00:07:25,480 --> 00:07:27,480 You redirected the conversation to Rhi and Jeff... 162 00:07:28,440 --> 00:07:30,600 ..mid - while I was mid-conversating, 163 00:07:30,640 --> 00:07:33,360 you were like, "Enough about us. Rhi and Jeff." You did that. 164 00:07:34,200 --> 00:07:35,160 Yeah. 165 00:07:37,480 --> 00:07:38,480 Feeling frustrated. 166 00:07:39,160 --> 00:07:43,560 Because I'm trying to find my voice in this relationship 167 00:07:43,600 --> 00:07:46,600 and it's hard to have one when you're constantly feeling shut down. 168 00:07:47,760 --> 00:07:49,960 When I try address my concerns to you, 169 00:07:50,000 --> 00:07:52,560 it does feel like you put me down, it does feel like you deflect. 170 00:07:52,600 --> 00:07:54,800 I need to have an outlet, I need to talk to people, 171 00:07:54,840 --> 00:07:56,000 I need to understand. 172 00:07:56,040 --> 00:07:58,120 How come I feel like Adrian doesn't show up for me? 173 00:08:00,160 --> 00:08:02,000 When I'm cleaning or doing things 174 00:08:02,040 --> 00:08:05,480 and I'm picking up your things, that's me saying I care about you. 175 00:08:05,520 --> 00:08:06,840 This is my way of showing up for someone. 176 00:08:06,880 --> 00:08:08,960 I know everyone expr... 177 00:08:09,000 --> 00:08:12,040 But Adrian, it's not that simple. All these very real... 178 00:08:12,080 --> 00:08:13,920 I do, Adrian. It's caring about your partner, 179 00:08:13,960 --> 00:08:15,120 it's thinking about them, 180 00:08:15,160 --> 00:08:17,840 it's appreciating these little acts of service. 181 00:08:17,880 --> 00:08:19,600 If you're not showing up for me, how am I supposed to see 182 00:08:19,640 --> 00:08:21,640 a long-term future for us 183 00:08:21,680 --> 00:08:23,440 or how am I going to see that we are compatible? 184 00:08:24,800 --> 00:08:27,400 I asked her, "How do I show up for you?" 185 00:08:27,440 --> 00:08:29,000 "What does that physically look like?" 186 00:08:29,040 --> 00:08:30,280 If I was to ask Adrian 187 00:08:30,320 --> 00:08:31,720 how he shows up for me... Why are you talking so loud? 188 00:08:31,760 --> 00:08:32,560 Stop talking at me. 189 00:08:36,800 --> 00:08:38,600 I feel like you keep coming back to the house things. 190 00:08:39,480 --> 00:08:41,920 But I asked her, "Tell me, are there examples how I can show up?" 191 00:08:42,640 --> 00:08:44,240 And I feel like I haven't got a proper answer 192 00:08:44,280 --> 00:08:45,240 to what that looks like. 193 00:08:45,720 --> 00:08:47,600 You honestly haven't given me any reassurances 194 00:08:47,640 --> 00:08:49,280 that we could work or be compatible outside this experiment. 195 00:08:49,320 --> 00:08:52,080 When there's an angry state between us 196 00:08:52,120 --> 00:08:56,480 or, you know, my very real child, my very real lifestyle, 197 00:08:56,520 --> 00:08:58,000 which is very different to yours, 198 00:08:58,040 --> 00:09:00,520 how are we supposed to make it work outside 199 00:09:00,560 --> 00:09:02,040 when we can't even make it work inside? 200 00:09:08,760 --> 00:09:11,280 I feel like Adrian is showing me more every day 201 00:09:11,320 --> 00:09:12,840 how he shows up for a partner 202 00:09:12,880 --> 00:09:15,040 and I'm going, "That's not enough for me." 203 00:09:15,080 --> 00:09:16,480 I don't want to just settle. 204 00:09:17,680 --> 00:09:20,560 Because I'm not settling for not just me, 205 00:09:20,600 --> 00:09:21,840 I'm not just settling for my son, 206 00:09:21,880 --> 00:09:24,200 like, I want to have the best role model, 207 00:09:24,240 --> 00:09:26,800 I want to have someone that shows up every day, 208 00:09:26,840 --> 00:09:31,920 and if you're not doing little things for me, 209 00:09:31,960 --> 00:09:34,400 am I wasting my time being here? 210 00:09:36,840 --> 00:09:40,240 NARRATOR: While Awhina and Adrian are at a standstill... 211 00:09:42,040 --> 00:09:44,920 ..down the hall, there's been a major development 212 00:09:44,960 --> 00:09:47,040 in Sierah and Billy's relationship. 213 00:09:48,560 --> 00:09:50,800 How are you after last night? 214 00:09:53,320 --> 00:09:55,680 So, me and Sierah was intimate last night. 215 00:09:56,640 --> 00:09:57,680 We had sex. 216 00:09:59,560 --> 00:10:02,080 So, this is a massive breakthrough for me and Sierah 217 00:10:02,120 --> 00:10:04,760 because we haven't had sex since the honeymoon 218 00:10:04,800 --> 00:10:06,000 and it just happened naturally. 219 00:10:06,040 --> 00:10:07,240 Thanks. 220 00:10:08,120 --> 00:10:13,000 But this morning, I woke up and there was a bit of an awkwardness. 221 00:10:14,360 --> 00:10:15,360 Well... 222 00:10:18,800 --> 00:10:20,000 Well, well, well. 223 00:10:21,320 --> 00:10:22,320 Um... 224 00:10:23,800 --> 00:10:25,680 It will be interesting to see what the experts take 225 00:10:25,720 --> 00:10:26,920 on the dinner party was. 226 00:10:28,440 --> 00:10:32,200 To hear what they say about the different couples 227 00:10:32,240 --> 00:10:33,840 and their take on it, yeah, will be... 228 00:10:35,560 --> 00:10:36,480 I'm intrigued. 229 00:10:37,920 --> 00:10:39,080 Hmm. 230 00:10:42,920 --> 00:10:45,920 I don't know, I'm feeling like some energy from Sierah 231 00:10:45,960 --> 00:10:47,200 that's standoffish. 232 00:10:47,880 --> 00:10:50,000 And I just don't understand why 233 00:10:50,040 --> 00:10:53,600 because she's wanted more physical touch 234 00:10:53,640 --> 00:10:56,880 and we now obviously have connected on that level, 235 00:10:56,920 --> 00:10:58,480 so it's confusing me. 236 00:11:03,920 --> 00:11:05,040 Um... 237 00:11:07,080 --> 00:11:09,240 Don't even know what I'm wearing tonight actually. 238 00:11:11,280 --> 00:11:12,480 Yeah, yeah. 239 00:11:13,280 --> 00:11:16,800 Me and Sierah aren't really connecting on the deeper level 240 00:11:16,840 --> 00:11:19,960 that I've been craving in that emotional connection. 241 00:11:23,480 --> 00:11:24,760 (EXHALES) 242 00:11:25,440 --> 00:11:26,560 It's great Nespresso. 243 00:11:30,120 --> 00:11:32,480 But I know there's something about her past 244 00:11:32,520 --> 00:11:36,240 which she has not felt comfortable with telling me yet. 245 00:11:36,280 --> 00:11:38,000 She's been very closed off about her past. 246 00:11:38,040 --> 00:11:39,400 And I respect that, 247 00:11:39,440 --> 00:11:40,720 but it would be nice 248 00:11:40,760 --> 00:11:45,240 to kind of have the full conversation about it 249 00:11:45,280 --> 00:11:48,360 because that's when you find a deeper connection. 250 00:11:48,400 --> 00:11:49,720 It's going to be an interesting one. 251 00:11:51,520 --> 00:11:53,800 Yeah. It sure is. 252 00:11:56,640 --> 00:12:00,400 NARRATOR: With the second commitment ceremony just hours away... 253 00:12:00,440 --> 00:12:02,040 You look beautiful. Thank you! 254 00:12:02,080 --> 00:12:03,760 That's so nice of you. 255 00:12:03,800 --> 00:12:08,120 ..the couples are preparing to face the experts... 256 00:12:08,160 --> 00:12:12,840 It's going to be another interesting night. 257 00:12:12,880 --> 00:12:16,400 ..and decide whether to stay in the experiment 258 00:12:16,440 --> 00:12:19,640 or leave their marriages for good. 259 00:12:21,440 --> 00:12:23,200 TONY (SING-SONG): Morena! 260 00:12:23,240 --> 00:12:24,760 You're nice and happy. 261 00:12:25,760 --> 00:12:29,160 NARRATOR: But getting ready is the last thing on Morena's mind, 262 00:12:29,200 --> 00:12:32,760 as she's still feeling resentful towards Tony 263 00:12:32,800 --> 00:12:34,840 about last night's dinner party. 264 00:12:36,240 --> 00:12:37,560 What's going on? 265 00:12:37,600 --> 00:12:38,840 I know we had last night last night. 266 00:12:38,880 --> 00:12:40,160 That table's hard. 267 00:12:40,200 --> 00:12:41,840 You didn't have a hard night, I did. 268 00:12:42,560 --> 00:12:46,520 Since the beginning, you two have literally been so disconnected, 269 00:12:46,560 --> 00:12:48,880 you do everything separate. Because he goes home every weekend. 270 00:12:48,920 --> 00:12:50,080 You keep fighting all the time. 271 00:12:50,120 --> 00:12:51,720 Does your girl go home every weekend? 272 00:12:51,760 --> 00:12:53,160 Do you go home every weekend? 273 00:12:53,200 --> 00:12:55,520 Does anyone here go home every weekend? 274 00:12:58,000 --> 00:12:59,520 You hurt me so much, Tony. 275 00:13:01,320 --> 00:13:03,480 You didn't stand up for me at all. 276 00:13:04,280 --> 00:13:06,640 The whole table was against me. 277 00:13:06,680 --> 00:13:09,120 There's 14 people at that table. They weren't against you, Morena. 278 00:13:09,160 --> 00:13:10,440 13... All they asked you was a question. 279 00:13:10,480 --> 00:13:12,200 You take it on the wrong way. No, they didn't. No. 280 00:13:12,240 --> 00:13:14,680 Everyone was against me, everyone else saw it. 281 00:13:14,720 --> 00:13:15,800 Relax. 282 00:13:17,160 --> 00:13:20,160 I know you're upset, I know I let you down a little bit last night. 283 00:13:21,240 --> 00:13:23,000 But I apologise. 284 00:13:23,040 --> 00:13:25,520 I needed you to stand up last night and say that 285 00:13:25,560 --> 00:13:27,400 in front of the whole table but you didn't. 286 00:13:27,440 --> 00:13:29,440 But sometimes you gotta listen, too, Morena. 287 00:13:29,480 --> 00:13:32,720 Just stop being so serious and join their conversation 288 00:13:32,760 --> 00:13:34,720 instead of giving them the Morena. 289 00:13:35,720 --> 00:13:37,880 But I'm not an actress. I know. I know that. 290 00:13:37,920 --> 00:13:39,800 I can be the happiest person in the world... 291 00:13:39,840 --> 00:13:43,040 That's where I've lost you. ..when you can treat me 292 00:13:43,080 --> 00:13:46,560 the way I expect to be treated when there's no one around. 293 00:13:46,600 --> 00:13:47,800 That's what counts to me. 294 00:13:47,840 --> 00:13:49,200 I'm not an actress. 295 00:13:49,240 --> 00:13:52,000 I'm sorry, Tony. I'm not. 296 00:13:54,720 --> 00:13:55,560 Alright. 297 00:13:56,280 --> 00:13:59,200 Sometimes you've just got to calm down and enjoy the ride, man. 298 00:13:59,240 --> 00:14:01,240 Like, talk with people with happiness. 299 00:14:01,280 --> 00:14:05,040 Everything's kind of always so dramatic with you when you talk. 300 00:14:05,080 --> 00:14:08,400 Just... But you understand why? 301 00:14:08,440 --> 00:14:10,960 You go and get your reset every weekend. 302 00:14:12,080 --> 00:14:15,160 And for me, it's just manifesting 'cause I'm on my own. 303 00:14:15,200 --> 00:14:18,000 You've dumped me every weekend. I don't dump you. 304 00:14:18,040 --> 00:14:19,800 With no - I don't know anyone in Sydney. 305 00:14:19,840 --> 00:14:22,640 Morena, sometimes - I spend a lot of time here 306 00:14:22,680 --> 00:14:24,200 and we're been doing this a lot. 307 00:14:24,240 --> 00:14:25,440 I need Tony time. 308 00:14:25,480 --> 00:14:26,640 That's how I've been, I've always been like that. 309 00:14:26,680 --> 00:14:29,960 But you're here for me. No, you're here for me. 310 00:14:30,000 --> 00:14:33,160 There'll be times when we're going to be spending more time together. 311 00:14:33,200 --> 00:14:34,560 There will be days. 312 00:14:34,600 --> 00:14:36,040 Let's see. 313 00:14:36,080 --> 00:14:37,040 (CLEARS THROAT) 314 00:14:41,320 --> 00:14:42,360 Let's see, huh? 315 00:14:57,520 --> 00:14:59,480 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 316 00:14:59,520 --> 00:15:00,800 Hey, Tony! 317 00:15:01,840 --> 00:15:03,360 MEL: Hello, gentlemen. 318 00:15:03,400 --> 00:15:06,520 Good evening. Welcome, welcome. 319 00:15:06,560 --> 00:15:09,560 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 320 00:15:13,800 --> 00:15:15,640 Hi! Hello, ladies. 321 00:15:15,680 --> 00:15:17,200 MEL: Hello, ladies. Come on in. 322 00:15:17,240 --> 00:15:19,680 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 323 00:15:25,400 --> 00:15:28,400 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 324 00:15:33,240 --> 00:15:35,520 I should have come with Tony. We're matching. 325 00:15:35,560 --> 00:15:38,440 (LAUGHTER) 326 00:15:41,920 --> 00:15:43,160 Well, hello, everyone, 327 00:15:43,200 --> 00:15:46,160 and welcome to your second commitment ceremony. 328 00:15:48,400 --> 00:15:50,000 I just want to thank everyone 329 00:15:50,040 --> 00:15:54,280 for taking on Intimacy Week with such passion 330 00:15:54,320 --> 00:15:56,040 and I hope that you all learned something 331 00:15:56,080 --> 00:15:59,000 about yourselves and your partners 332 00:15:59,040 --> 00:16:01,960 to help really nourish these relationships. 333 00:16:03,680 --> 00:16:05,840 Now, as we saw last night at the dinner party... 334 00:16:07,240 --> 00:16:08,920 ..there was a lot of drama. 335 00:16:08,960 --> 00:16:11,960 People got certain things off their chests. 336 00:16:13,600 --> 00:16:16,880 But obviously, when it comes to a commitment ceremony, 337 00:16:16,920 --> 00:16:17,960 we go deeper. 338 00:16:18,760 --> 00:16:22,760 So, we want you to bring everything to the couch tonight. 339 00:16:25,280 --> 00:16:27,400 Well, tonight, our first couple up on the couch... 340 00:16:34,280 --> 00:16:35,800 Tony and Morena. 341 00:16:35,840 --> 00:16:37,920 Oopa! 342 00:16:39,600 --> 00:16:42,200 (SMATTERING OF APPLAUSE) 343 00:16:43,080 --> 00:16:44,040 Ooh. 344 00:16:46,960 --> 00:16:48,640 Hi, guys. How are you? 345 00:16:48,680 --> 00:16:50,240 Well, we are well. 346 00:16:50,920 --> 00:16:52,840 But we are concerned about how you two are doing. 347 00:16:54,960 --> 00:16:58,280 Of course, we were there, watching the dinner party last night 348 00:16:58,320 --> 00:17:04,920 and saw that there was a lot going on, particularly for you, Morena. 349 00:17:04,960 --> 00:17:09,040 A lot of emotion, so we thought, let's kick off with you. 350 00:17:09,080 --> 00:17:09,960 Thank you. 351 00:17:13,040 --> 00:17:17,120 I came into this experiment not to be on my own. 352 00:17:19,520 --> 00:17:22,160 I came into this experiment 353 00:17:22,200 --> 00:17:23,240 to bond... 354 00:17:24,320 --> 00:17:26,240 ..with the person you've matched me up with. 355 00:17:26,280 --> 00:17:27,680 Yeah. 356 00:17:27,720 --> 00:17:29,480 I haven't had that chance. 357 00:17:32,440 --> 00:17:34,160 He's not around. 358 00:17:35,840 --> 00:17:37,600 I feel - I'm really sad. 359 00:17:37,640 --> 00:17:39,160 It feels really lonely. 360 00:17:40,080 --> 00:17:43,840 I didn't come on this experiment to feel alone. 361 00:17:44,920 --> 00:17:48,560 And when he is around, 362 00:17:48,600 --> 00:17:53,960 obligation, he does all the tasks 'cause he has to. 363 00:17:56,560 --> 00:18:01,120 But the minute the obligation is done, Tony needs Tony time. 364 00:18:05,920 --> 00:18:07,760 Well, it is me. I do do that. 365 00:18:10,040 --> 00:18:11,520 Sometimes, you just - I just need to get away 366 00:18:11,560 --> 00:18:13,040 and have Tony time. 367 00:18:14,200 --> 00:18:16,680 And I don't mean to be rude about it or hurt you in any way. 368 00:18:16,720 --> 00:18:20,640 Tony time in the morning, Tony time at night... 369 00:18:23,600 --> 00:18:25,240 ..and in the weekend, Tony time. 370 00:18:28,760 --> 00:18:31,840 Tony, why do you think you need Tony time? 371 00:18:35,120 --> 00:18:37,480 It's just how I am. Like, it's just how I am, like... 372 00:18:38,400 --> 00:18:40,120 Is that an excuse? Not really. It's just how I am. 373 00:18:40,160 --> 00:18:41,640 That sounds like, "It's just how I am." 374 00:18:41,680 --> 00:18:42,720 No, but that's just how I am. 375 00:18:42,760 --> 00:18:44,280 I'll sweep everything under the table. 376 00:18:44,320 --> 00:18:46,320 But that's not going to work in a relationship. 377 00:18:48,840 --> 00:18:50,640 This needs to be Tony 2.0. 378 00:18:51,240 --> 00:18:53,840 Because if you always do what you've always done... 379 00:18:53,880 --> 00:18:55,600 It's not gonna work. 380 00:18:55,640 --> 00:18:57,960 ..you're going to get what you've always got. 381 00:18:58,000 --> 00:18:59,680 It's time to change. 382 00:18:59,720 --> 00:19:01,840 And I'm up for that. That's why... 383 00:19:01,880 --> 00:19:04,160 OK. That's why I'm here. 384 00:19:14,000 --> 00:19:16,720 So, when Tony leaves... 385 00:19:17,960 --> 00:19:19,400 ..where does he go? 386 00:19:21,640 --> 00:19:22,640 He's Houdini. 387 00:19:23,200 --> 00:19:24,640 (CHUCKLES) 388 00:19:24,680 --> 00:19:26,600 (MURMURED LAUGHTER) 389 00:19:27,440 --> 00:19:30,440 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 390 00:19:39,160 --> 00:19:41,760 You've already given me a hard time last night, guys. Really? 391 00:19:46,320 --> 00:19:47,400 Focus here, Morena. 392 00:19:47,440 --> 00:19:48,360 They are talking to you. No. 393 00:19:48,400 --> 00:19:49,520 I don't appreciate them laughing. 394 00:19:51,640 --> 00:19:53,280 No, I don't appreciate them laughing. 395 00:19:53,320 --> 00:19:54,960 They're beautiful people. You don't need to get them involved. 396 00:19:55,000 --> 00:19:56,440 I'm not laughing. I didn't say, I didn't say... 397 00:19:56,480 --> 00:19:58,080 This is where you've got to listen to. 398 00:19:58,120 --> 00:19:59,280 To these professionals here. Hang on, hang on. 399 00:19:59,320 --> 00:20:00,680 The most beautiful people. I didn't say they're not beautiful. 400 00:20:00,720 --> 00:20:02,240 This is what I have a problem with. 401 00:20:02,280 --> 00:20:04,480 This is why I do Houdinis. 402 00:20:08,520 --> 00:20:11,520 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 403 00:20:19,960 --> 00:20:21,760 Focus here, Morena. They're talking to you. 404 00:20:21,800 --> 00:20:22,880 No, I don't appreciate them laughing. 405 00:20:22,920 --> 00:20:24,280 This is what I get. 406 00:20:25,080 --> 00:20:26,680 No, I don't appreciate them laughing. 407 00:20:26,720 --> 00:20:28,120 They're beautiful people. I'm not laughing. 408 00:20:28,160 --> 00:20:29,960 Didn't say they're not beautiful. This is where I have the problem. 409 00:20:30,000 --> 00:20:32,520 This is why I do Houdini. 410 00:20:35,720 --> 00:20:37,960 Billy, why is it that you're laughing at that? 411 00:20:38,000 --> 00:20:40,720 Because Houdini. 412 00:20:40,760 --> 00:20:42,640 We just thought it was a funny comment. 413 00:20:43,720 --> 00:20:46,360 Morena, we're not laughing at you, it's just you made a joke. 414 00:20:46,400 --> 00:20:48,760 The word just... The word was funny, that's all it is. 415 00:20:49,560 --> 00:20:50,480 OK. 416 00:20:50,520 --> 00:20:51,720 We honestly thought she was making a joke. 417 00:20:53,680 --> 00:20:55,200 Can I add to that? 418 00:20:55,240 --> 00:20:57,560 Last night, you only ever heard the negative. 419 00:20:58,760 --> 00:21:00,520 You felt attacked the whole time. 420 00:21:03,080 --> 00:21:04,720 Is that true, Morena? 421 00:21:04,760 --> 00:21:08,680 Do you only hear the negatives, that you're on the defensive? 422 00:21:08,720 --> 00:21:11,160 Or do you actually see the positives as well? 423 00:21:13,080 --> 00:21:15,240 Well, I didn't see any positives last night. 424 00:21:18,120 --> 00:21:19,160 OK. 425 00:21:20,680 --> 00:21:27,240 I saw there was 14 people at a table and 13 were against me. 426 00:21:28,760 --> 00:21:30,000 That's a big call. I don't know. 427 00:21:30,040 --> 00:21:32,280 Morena, I have supported you 428 00:21:32,320 --> 00:21:34,160 and I have listened to both of you, 429 00:21:34,200 --> 00:21:37,200 and I feel like I have expressed, 430 00:21:37,240 --> 00:21:40,840 like, I've validated your feelings over and over again. 431 00:21:40,880 --> 00:21:44,520 To say that there's 13 people against you, that really offends me. 432 00:21:48,200 --> 00:21:49,520 That's how I felt. 433 00:21:51,560 --> 00:21:53,560 MEL: Morena, it's so important, 434 00:21:53,600 --> 00:21:56,520 in order to get over some hurdles like this early in a relationship, 435 00:21:56,560 --> 00:21:58,080 to be able to self-reflect, 436 00:21:58,120 --> 00:21:59,920 look at yourself and your own behaviour, 437 00:21:59,960 --> 00:22:01,120 and take accountability. 438 00:22:01,160 --> 00:22:02,640 Yeah. I think, Tony, 439 00:22:02,680 --> 00:22:05,000 you've started showing some of that. 440 00:22:05,040 --> 00:22:08,240 So, I'm asking you, what are some of the things 441 00:22:08,280 --> 00:22:10,800 that you may have said or done in this relationship 442 00:22:10,840 --> 00:22:12,720 that have been bad for the relationship? 443 00:22:13,640 --> 00:22:14,720 Um... 444 00:22:23,920 --> 00:22:25,360 I actually don't know. 445 00:22:29,360 --> 00:22:30,680 I'm being me. 446 00:22:33,240 --> 00:22:35,440 Well, one of the reasons why we sit here 447 00:22:35,480 --> 00:22:37,960 is because we need to hold a mirror up. 448 00:22:39,120 --> 00:22:43,160 Now, we know that the both of you need to take some accountability. 449 00:22:45,320 --> 00:22:47,000 Tony, a very key question. 450 00:22:47,040 --> 00:22:51,440 How have you contributed to this relationship not working? 451 00:22:52,360 --> 00:22:55,040 It is a lot for me. You know, like, I do take a lot of that blame, 452 00:22:55,080 --> 00:22:57,240 like, 'cause she's right. I disappear. 453 00:22:59,120 --> 00:23:00,120 Let me put it another way. 454 00:23:00,160 --> 00:23:02,680 If you were giving a percentage 455 00:23:02,720 --> 00:23:06,400 of who's to blame for your relationship issues, 456 00:23:06,440 --> 00:23:08,120 what is the breakdown? 457 00:23:10,440 --> 00:23:11,560 I think... 458 00:23:13,160 --> 00:23:15,040 I think probably 50-50, man. 459 00:23:17,360 --> 00:23:18,920 50-50? 460 00:23:18,960 --> 00:23:20,600 For you, Morena? 461 00:23:20,640 --> 00:23:22,880 What is the breakdown? 462 00:23:24,160 --> 00:23:26,920 Well, he keeps going away, John. 463 00:23:30,200 --> 00:23:31,880 It takes two. 464 00:23:33,280 --> 00:23:35,800 So, what is Tony's percentage, what's yours? 465 00:23:40,520 --> 00:23:44,280 You know, at least a seven or an eight. 466 00:23:51,040 --> 00:23:55,240 So, he's 80% the problem, and you're 20%? Just so I'm clear. 467 00:23:57,040 --> 00:23:57,920 Yeah. 468 00:24:01,320 --> 00:24:04,160 80% of the problems in your relationship 469 00:24:04,200 --> 00:24:05,720 is because of Tony. 470 00:24:05,760 --> 00:24:06,840 Well, yeah. 471 00:24:09,000 --> 00:24:11,120 That's how I feel. I'm so sorry. 472 00:24:12,320 --> 00:24:14,200 I'm so sorry for how I feel. 473 00:24:14,240 --> 00:24:17,240 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 474 00:24:19,560 --> 00:24:21,000 But your 20% is what? 475 00:24:22,360 --> 00:24:24,920 Talking. Being open. 476 00:24:24,960 --> 00:24:28,440 How might you talk that would push him away? 477 00:24:31,920 --> 00:24:33,080 Think about it. 478 00:24:35,600 --> 00:24:37,120 Oh, tone? 479 00:24:38,400 --> 00:24:39,560 Tell me more. 480 00:24:40,720 --> 00:24:42,280 I'm passionate. 481 00:24:42,320 --> 00:24:44,000 Some might say passionate. 482 00:24:44,040 --> 00:24:45,760 Others might say... 483 00:24:48,480 --> 00:24:49,440 ..abrasive. 484 00:24:49,480 --> 00:24:50,600 OK. 485 00:24:53,320 --> 00:24:56,000 What do you do when you're getting things off your chest? 486 00:24:59,280 --> 00:25:00,920 Well, hand actions. 487 00:25:00,960 --> 00:25:03,240 What exactly do you do with your hands? 488 00:25:06,880 --> 00:25:08,800 I don't know, I talk with my hands. 489 00:25:12,040 --> 00:25:13,840 Well, I've watched you over the dinner party 490 00:25:13,880 --> 00:25:16,520 and one of the things that I've noticed 491 00:25:16,560 --> 00:25:21,840 is that when you want to get things off your chest, you point. 492 00:25:24,800 --> 00:25:27,800 And you get very much in someone's face. 493 00:25:28,440 --> 00:25:30,080 Has anyone ever told you that? 494 00:25:30,760 --> 00:25:33,120 No. I didn't even actually realise I did that. 495 00:25:33,160 --> 00:25:34,400 This is why we're here. 496 00:25:34,440 --> 00:25:35,400 Yeah. 497 00:25:38,080 --> 00:25:39,240 So, the way in which you're talking, 498 00:25:39,280 --> 00:25:41,480 the way in which you're getting things across, 499 00:25:41,520 --> 00:25:43,600 your communication style, your fight style... 500 00:25:45,400 --> 00:25:46,880 ..can be difficult to listen to. 501 00:25:46,920 --> 00:25:48,840 How does that land for you? 502 00:25:50,240 --> 00:25:52,080 Well, clearly, I didn't realise 503 00:25:52,120 --> 00:25:54,760 my gestures with my hands were so strong. 504 00:25:55,280 --> 00:25:56,240 Right. 505 00:25:56,280 --> 00:25:59,400 But if that's what you see and that's what I've done, 506 00:25:59,440 --> 00:26:01,480 I don't even realise I do it. 507 00:26:03,040 --> 00:26:07,760 Tony, do you feel that Morena's intensity in her communication style 508 00:26:07,800 --> 00:26:09,080 is too much for you? 509 00:26:09,120 --> 00:26:12,520 It is, yeah. At times, it is, yeah. 510 00:26:12,560 --> 00:26:14,600 Sometimes I just shut down and just think to myself, 511 00:26:14,640 --> 00:26:15,960 "Tony, just shut up and let her talk." 512 00:26:16,920 --> 00:26:19,120 'Cause, you know, I feel like I've lost my voice. 513 00:26:21,880 --> 00:26:25,360 Sometimes I just feel like just packing up and getting out of here. 514 00:26:25,400 --> 00:26:29,200 You know? That's when I disappear, that's when I start taking off. 515 00:26:29,240 --> 00:26:32,280 When Morena comes at you with all the words, 516 00:26:32,320 --> 00:26:34,160 you shut down and you walk away. 517 00:26:34,200 --> 00:26:35,560 Yeah. OK. 518 00:26:35,600 --> 00:26:36,920 So, there's our pattern. 519 00:26:41,400 --> 00:26:44,280 Morena, are you willing to work on the relationship? 520 00:26:48,720 --> 00:26:50,160 You know, there's hope. 521 00:26:52,080 --> 00:26:55,600 But actions speak larger than words. 522 00:26:56,480 --> 00:26:57,520 Yeah. 523 00:26:58,760 --> 00:27:01,480 Morena, what have we got? Stay or leave? 524 00:27:01,520 --> 00:27:04,520 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 525 00:27:08,560 --> 00:27:09,720 Ah! 526 00:27:09,760 --> 00:27:11,080 (GASPS) BILLY: Thought she would! 527 00:27:15,400 --> 00:27:16,800 Morena, what's the story there? 528 00:27:17,880 --> 00:27:19,400 I put a heart next to leave 529 00:27:19,440 --> 00:27:21,040 'cause I came here for love. 530 00:27:22,200 --> 00:27:24,480 And I came here with such a full heart. 531 00:27:27,920 --> 00:27:31,360 And I feel let down. 532 00:27:32,120 --> 00:27:34,760 Tony, what have we got? Stay or leave? 533 00:27:39,400 --> 00:27:40,560 So, I'm going to stay, 534 00:27:40,600 --> 00:27:42,360 but I put a reset button here. 535 00:27:48,080 --> 00:27:49,320 Let's start again, Morena. 536 00:27:52,280 --> 00:27:56,120 Let's reset, listen to what they've said, and let's go for it. 537 00:27:56,160 --> 00:27:57,560 Tomorrow's a different day. 538 00:27:59,560 --> 00:28:00,960 Oh. 539 00:28:01,000 --> 00:28:03,880 I'd like to make her happier, which I've brought sad eyes to her. 540 00:28:04,680 --> 00:28:06,040 Do you hear that? 541 00:28:06,080 --> 00:28:07,440 I heard it. 542 00:28:07,480 --> 00:28:09,360 And that's, and that's... 543 00:28:09,400 --> 00:28:11,000 Fantastic. 544 00:28:11,040 --> 00:28:12,600 Yeah. 545 00:28:15,760 --> 00:28:17,360 Now, as you know, you two, 546 00:28:17,400 --> 00:28:20,360 if one person says stay and the other says leave, 547 00:28:20,400 --> 00:28:24,560 then the couple remains in the experiment for one more week 548 00:28:24,600 --> 00:28:26,960 to work on seeing if they can turn it around. 549 00:28:28,880 --> 00:28:31,640 Morena, you have a chance here... 550 00:28:31,680 --> 00:28:32,840 Yeah. 551 00:28:34,040 --> 00:28:36,080 ..to move forward with this guy. Yep. 552 00:28:37,480 --> 00:28:41,560 Tony needs to feel like, "I can spend time with her... 553 00:28:42,800 --> 00:28:43,760 "..and enjoy it... 554 00:28:44,960 --> 00:28:46,480 "..and feel good enough." 555 00:28:47,120 --> 00:28:50,080 'Cause what's coming out of your mouth, I can translate it. 556 00:28:50,120 --> 00:28:51,360 "You're not good enough." 557 00:28:53,040 --> 00:28:55,240 If you want him to step up and spend time with you, 558 00:28:55,280 --> 00:28:56,880 you've got to embrace him. 559 00:28:58,200 --> 00:29:00,920 What I would say though, Tony, that's very, very clear... 560 00:29:02,440 --> 00:29:07,000 ..is that she is deprived of you and she wants more. 561 00:29:07,040 --> 00:29:08,480 But you're not giving it to her. 562 00:29:08,520 --> 00:29:10,440 That's where I have to change. 563 00:29:10,480 --> 00:29:13,920 There are no more Houdinis in this experiment. 564 00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:19,240 Overall, the two of you also need to just have some fun. You know? 565 00:29:19,280 --> 00:29:21,600 Be present with each other and with the group. 566 00:29:22,520 --> 00:29:24,480 You guys need to show us that you can do it. 567 00:29:26,040 --> 00:29:27,560 And we believe you can. 568 00:29:30,160 --> 00:29:31,320 You can go back to the group. 569 00:29:31,360 --> 00:29:32,800 Thank you. (APPLAUSE) 570 00:29:32,840 --> 00:29:34,760 You alright? You alright? 571 00:29:34,800 --> 00:29:36,720 (CHUCKLES) 572 00:29:36,760 --> 00:29:38,560 It took her a little while for her to understand 573 00:29:38,600 --> 00:29:40,200 where the experts are coming from, 574 00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:43,520 like, just by, you know, the gestures she does 575 00:29:43,560 --> 00:29:45,760 and pointing the finger and stuff like that. 576 00:29:45,800 --> 00:29:47,360 BILLY: She's smiling! 577 00:29:49,600 --> 00:29:52,880 But it's making sense to her, so tonight was a breakthrough, yeah. 578 00:29:52,920 --> 00:29:54,560 BILLY: It's a reset. It's alright, Morena. Don't worry. 579 00:29:54,600 --> 00:29:56,160 Reset, press the button. You have to press the button. 580 00:29:56,200 --> 00:29:57,600 Yeah, press the button, Morena. 581 00:29:58,280 --> 00:29:59,520 Go on, Morena. Press it. 582 00:29:59,560 --> 00:30:02,320 (CHEERING) 583 00:30:02,360 --> 00:30:03,840 This week's a different week, so... 584 00:30:10,560 --> 00:30:11,680 NARRATOR: Coming up, 585 00:30:11,720 --> 00:30:14,200 Intimacy Week ignites passions. 586 00:30:14,240 --> 00:30:15,520 I was blindfolded, you know, 587 00:30:15,560 --> 00:30:18,200 and then she took the blindfolds off and then... 588 00:30:18,920 --> 00:30:20,120 ..and then she just revealed everything. 589 00:30:20,160 --> 00:30:21,080 (LAUGHTER) 590 00:30:21,120 --> 00:30:22,440 I've got to say, it was pretty spicy. 591 00:30:22,480 --> 00:30:23,800 (LAUGHTER) 592 00:30:23,840 --> 00:30:25,800 NARRATOR: Also... Strap yourselves in. 593 00:30:25,840 --> 00:30:28,840 ..Jacqui baffles the experts. 594 00:30:28,880 --> 00:30:31,320 I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest. 595 00:30:31,360 --> 00:30:33,200 I'm asking him to find a way to put me first. 596 00:30:34,440 --> 00:30:36,680 S... I don't understand. 597 00:30:37,800 --> 00:30:38,720 How does that work? 598 00:30:49,440 --> 00:30:51,360 Our next couple up on the couch... 599 00:30:54,360 --> 00:30:55,520 Jamie and Dave. 600 00:30:56,640 --> 00:30:58,920 (APPLAUSE) 601 00:30:58,960 --> 00:31:00,840 Hello, you guys. 602 00:31:00,880 --> 00:31:04,240 So, Jamie, why don't you tell us, how do you think things are going? 603 00:31:04,280 --> 00:31:06,840 Things are going, like, yeah, really, really well. 604 00:31:06,880 --> 00:31:10,400 Like, every day, he shows up for me, validates me. 605 00:31:10,440 --> 00:31:14,280 Like, I'm a big personality and not once does he try 606 00:31:14,320 --> 00:31:16,840 to tell me to, like, stop, tone me down. 607 00:31:16,880 --> 00:31:19,800 Instead he goes, "I love that you just - you're so confident." 608 00:31:20,600 --> 00:31:23,600 And, like, he always celebrates when I am vulnerable. 609 00:31:25,200 --> 00:31:26,480 He just knows what I need. 610 00:31:27,720 --> 00:31:29,920 I'm so icky all the time. 611 00:31:29,960 --> 00:31:33,920 It's just, like, I feel safe, I feel secure, I feel happy. 612 00:31:33,960 --> 00:31:35,320 Like, tick, tick, tick. 613 00:31:35,360 --> 00:31:36,760 Yes! 614 00:31:37,280 --> 00:31:40,200 She doesn't even like to cuddle and she fell asleep like here. 615 00:31:40,960 --> 00:31:43,280 I want to just climb up in there. 616 00:31:43,320 --> 00:31:44,680 We can't stop touching each other. 617 00:31:46,280 --> 00:31:48,400 I don't like this. I used to be a bad bitch, I promise. 618 00:31:48,440 --> 00:31:49,600 (CHUCKLES) 619 00:31:49,640 --> 00:31:51,440 And now, I'm just soft as. 620 00:31:54,880 --> 00:31:58,880 To you, Dave. How are you feeling about this woman? 621 00:31:58,920 --> 00:32:00,240 Oh, she's bloody amazing. 622 00:32:00,280 --> 00:32:02,520 I've shared things with her inside out 623 00:32:02,560 --> 00:32:05,760 and she's just zero judgement at all. She's lovely. 624 00:32:05,800 --> 00:32:07,120 She's not big and scary. 625 00:32:07,160 --> 00:32:08,360 (LAUGHTER) 626 00:32:08,400 --> 00:32:11,840 Like, the whole spark thing is, like, bullshit, 627 00:32:11,880 --> 00:32:13,200 like, how everyone left 'cause they didn't have a spark. 628 00:32:13,240 --> 00:32:15,760 Like, we had, like, the attraction 629 00:32:15,800 --> 00:32:18,920 but, like, the sparks came shooting out of our arse 630 00:32:18,960 --> 00:32:22,120 when we sat there and worked every day on building a connection. 631 00:32:23,640 --> 00:32:26,000 Great point. Like, I got lost in the bullshit 632 00:32:26,040 --> 00:32:28,040 where I'm, like, he likes going hiking, I don't. 633 00:32:28,080 --> 00:32:30,280 He likes... But like instead we've got to know 634 00:32:30,320 --> 00:32:31,920 each other's core values and now we're like... 635 00:32:31,960 --> 00:32:34,120 Yeah. I'll be a dog mum. 636 00:32:34,160 --> 00:32:35,320 Like, (BLEEP) it. 637 00:32:35,360 --> 00:32:39,240 (LAUGHTER) 638 00:32:41,480 --> 00:32:44,720 Well, this is absolutely gorgeous and it's no coincidence 639 00:32:44,760 --> 00:32:46,800 that the two of you are sitting here so happy. 640 00:32:46,840 --> 00:32:50,120 You have done the work, so absolute kudos to the two of you. 641 00:32:50,160 --> 00:32:52,640 But we do need to go to a decision. 642 00:32:52,680 --> 00:32:54,520 Jamie, let's go with you first. 643 00:32:56,040 --> 00:32:57,640 "Stay." 644 00:32:57,680 --> 00:32:58,720 (APPLAUSE) 645 00:32:58,760 --> 00:32:59,760 Wonderful. 646 00:32:59,800 --> 00:33:00,920 I'm going to stay. 647 00:33:00,960 --> 00:33:02,440 Oh, and a little smile. 648 00:33:02,480 --> 00:33:04,280 (APPLAUSE) Gorgeous. 649 00:33:04,320 --> 00:33:06,320 Thank you so much, guys. 650 00:33:06,360 --> 00:33:07,720 Thanks, guys. Thank you very much. 651 00:33:07,760 --> 00:33:10,520 (APPLAUSE) Well done, good stuff. 652 00:33:12,480 --> 00:33:13,920 Our next couple up... 653 00:33:16,280 --> 00:33:17,200 Carina and Paul. 654 00:33:18,000 --> 00:33:19,440 Yeah! 655 00:33:20,040 --> 00:33:21,760 (APPLAUSE) 656 00:33:21,800 --> 00:33:23,360 Hi, guys. How are you, guys? 657 00:33:23,400 --> 00:33:24,560 Hey, you two. We're well. 658 00:33:24,600 --> 00:33:25,400 Hello. Good to see you again. 659 00:33:26,800 --> 00:33:28,720 I would like to thank you, Alessandra, 660 00:33:28,760 --> 00:33:30,360 for the intimacy week. 661 00:33:30,400 --> 00:33:32,280 Because I've got to say, it was pretty spicy. 662 00:33:32,320 --> 00:33:34,800 (LAUGHTER) 663 00:33:35,400 --> 00:33:37,000 Tell us about it. 664 00:33:37,040 --> 00:33:38,200 I was blindfolded, you know, 665 00:33:38,240 --> 00:33:39,520 she - I was walking through the hall of the apartment, 666 00:33:39,560 --> 00:33:40,920 thinking, what the hell is going on? 667 00:33:40,960 --> 00:33:42,040 (LAUGHTER) 668 00:33:42,080 --> 00:33:44,640 And then she took the blindfolds off and then... 669 00:33:45,280 --> 00:33:47,080 ..and then she just revealed everything and then... 670 00:33:47,120 --> 00:33:50,280 (LAUGHS) "And then she revealed everything!" 671 00:33:50,320 --> 00:33:51,600 (LAUGHTER) "Everything." 672 00:33:51,640 --> 00:33:53,600 I love that you're re-enacting it for us. 673 00:33:53,640 --> 00:33:56,200 The things we did. I mean, I did not expect it at all. 674 00:33:56,240 --> 00:33:59,360 It did not expect that at all, like, at all. 675 00:33:59,400 --> 00:34:02,080 Is that what I could hear that night? Paul getting whipped. 676 00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:03,560 (LAUGHTER) 677 00:34:03,600 --> 00:34:05,720 When it comes to sex, you know, like, normally Carina 678 00:34:05,760 --> 00:34:07,960 and I am very dominant and she's more submissive, 679 00:34:08,000 --> 00:34:11,680 and obviously, she wanted to reverse that, take control, 680 00:34:11,720 --> 00:34:14,960 which honestly, I really appreciated that, honestly. 681 00:34:15,000 --> 00:34:16,080 (LAUGHTER) It was... 682 00:34:18,320 --> 00:34:19,760 I had to make it romantic. 683 00:34:19,800 --> 00:34:21,680 But it was romantic. 'Cause I am... Yeah. 684 00:34:21,720 --> 00:34:22,520 It was really romantic. 685 00:34:22,560 --> 00:34:25,040 But I also came out of my comfort zone. 686 00:34:25,080 --> 00:34:28,160 I did something completely different to what I've ever done. 687 00:34:28,200 --> 00:34:29,600 To what you're normally used to. 688 00:34:30,120 --> 00:34:33,880 We just really brang it. We owned it, we just had fun with it, 689 00:34:33,920 --> 00:34:36,000 we joked, we just made each other, 690 00:34:36,040 --> 00:34:37,560 like, super comfortable. We were comfortable. 691 00:34:38,720 --> 00:34:41,040 What sort of feelings are you having now for Carina? 692 00:34:41,080 --> 00:34:42,680 Yeah, I actually adore her, yeah. 693 00:34:43,800 --> 00:34:46,800 (TENDER SOUNDTRACK) 694 00:34:52,120 --> 00:34:54,400 Adore? We like the word adore. 695 00:34:54,440 --> 00:34:56,000 That's a very strong emotion, that. 696 00:34:56,040 --> 00:34:58,560 We're not just physically connected, we're emotionally connected. 697 00:34:58,600 --> 00:35:01,080 Like, I actually look forward to, you know, 698 00:35:01,120 --> 00:35:03,560 seeing what life is going to be like outside this experiment. 699 00:35:05,160 --> 00:35:07,600 What about you, Carina? How are you feeling for him? 700 00:35:07,640 --> 00:35:08,600 I'm in awe. 701 00:35:10,440 --> 00:35:12,920 Like, I'm so excited to wake up in the morning 702 00:35:12,960 --> 00:35:16,320 and then, like, yeah, just, like, little things are making me so happy 703 00:35:16,360 --> 00:35:18,200 and I'm, like, this is... 704 00:35:18,240 --> 00:35:20,360 This is just like something different. 705 00:35:20,400 --> 00:35:21,840 I don't know how to explain it. 706 00:35:22,880 --> 00:35:25,840 It's not like the physical aspect, like, yeah, that's fantastic, 707 00:35:25,880 --> 00:35:28,320 but it's more like the emotional aspect. 708 00:35:30,560 --> 00:35:33,960 And do you notice that you're not really talking to us. 709 00:35:34,000 --> 00:35:35,120 It's like we're not even here. 710 00:35:35,160 --> 00:35:36,320 Am I talking to him? 711 00:35:36,360 --> 00:35:38,440 (LAUGHTER) I'm like so... 712 00:35:39,440 --> 00:35:41,160 We may as well just up and leave. 713 00:35:41,200 --> 00:35:44,440 Because you're just transfixed on the big fella. 714 00:35:44,480 --> 00:35:46,440 (LAUGHS) 715 00:35:47,480 --> 00:35:48,720 We're going to go to the decision. 716 00:35:49,760 --> 00:35:51,840 I don't think it's a surprise for anyone. 717 00:35:51,880 --> 00:35:53,840 I have "Stay, stay" with a heart. 718 00:35:53,880 --> 00:35:54,920 Oh, double stay. 719 00:35:54,960 --> 00:35:55,840 (APPLAUSE) 720 00:35:55,880 --> 00:35:57,520 Alright, stay. 721 00:35:57,560 --> 00:35:59,920 "Stay." Yes, it is. 722 00:35:59,960 --> 00:36:02,360 Again with a love heart and two kisses. 723 00:36:02,400 --> 00:36:03,640 Nice stuff. 724 00:36:03,680 --> 00:36:04,960 Thank you. Go back to the group 725 00:36:05,000 --> 00:36:06,160 and have a great week, guys. Thank you. 726 00:36:06,200 --> 00:36:07,600 You too. Ciao. 727 00:36:07,640 --> 00:36:09,520 (APPLAUSE) 728 00:36:10,720 --> 00:36:12,480 (CHEERING) 729 00:36:13,760 --> 00:36:15,760 Our next couple up on the couch... 730 00:36:19,520 --> 00:36:20,920 Jacqui and Ryan. 731 00:36:20,960 --> 00:36:23,480 (APPLAUSE) 732 00:36:23,520 --> 00:36:26,160 Strap yourselves in for a ride. 733 00:36:33,520 --> 00:36:35,160 We'd like to get right into it. 734 00:36:35,200 --> 00:36:37,000 We were observing last night 735 00:36:37,040 --> 00:36:39,320 and there were a lot of voices from the group 736 00:36:39,360 --> 00:36:40,680 regarding your relationship. 737 00:36:41,840 --> 00:36:43,480 Why do you think that is, Ryan? 738 00:36:45,320 --> 00:36:47,800 During the intimacy workshop that we had, 739 00:36:47,840 --> 00:36:50,960 I made a couple of comments which were crass 740 00:36:51,000 --> 00:36:52,840 and ungentlemanly-like. 741 00:36:57,440 --> 00:37:00,240 I fully admit to that and I'm sorry again for that. 742 00:37:03,240 --> 00:37:04,800 Yeah. Thank you. 743 00:37:04,840 --> 00:37:07,920 And my wife looks beautiful tonight. Oh, thank you. Thank you. 744 00:37:08,760 --> 00:37:10,760 Ryan, those were comments that were disrespectful 745 00:37:10,800 --> 00:37:12,400 and should not have been said. 746 00:37:13,200 --> 00:37:16,120 And clearly, everybody in the group when they heard them, 747 00:37:16,160 --> 00:37:17,800 were coming to Jacqui's defence. 748 00:37:19,280 --> 00:37:22,600 Your response wasn't to take ownership of that 749 00:37:22,640 --> 00:37:24,920 when you were being confronted by the group. 750 00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,080 Why was that? 751 00:37:27,120 --> 00:37:29,080 I admit that they... 752 00:37:29,120 --> 00:37:34,000 I was far too candid and they were disrespectful within that format. 753 00:37:34,040 --> 00:37:37,360 I fully admit to that, and I'm sorry again for that. 754 00:37:37,400 --> 00:37:38,840 OK? 755 00:37:38,880 --> 00:37:43,120 I do appreciate you taking accountability now, 756 00:37:43,160 --> 00:37:46,120 and apologising on the couch to Jacqui. 757 00:37:46,160 --> 00:37:47,760 Thank you. 758 00:37:48,680 --> 00:37:51,200 So, let's try to understand where the two of you are at. 759 00:37:53,560 --> 00:37:58,640 The part I'm trying to understand and the reason I'm so confused 760 00:37:58,680 --> 00:38:00,200 is the flip-flopping. 761 00:38:03,200 --> 00:38:04,000 Yeah. 762 00:38:04,040 --> 00:38:07,640 Last night, I observed a variety of different couples... 763 00:38:09,640 --> 00:38:11,120 ..in different moments of the night. 764 00:38:12,040 --> 00:38:13,760 Yeah. Yeah, we get that. Yeah. 765 00:38:13,800 --> 00:38:17,520 Because you started off being very much a united front and a team. 766 00:38:18,440 --> 00:38:21,520 At a certain point, that team seemed to crumble down. 767 00:38:24,760 --> 00:38:26,880 Then this morning, it was patched back up together. 768 00:38:27,400 --> 00:38:29,160 Yeah, I guess, like, I woke up this morning 769 00:38:29,200 --> 00:38:30,560 to two bouquets of flowers. 770 00:38:32,560 --> 00:38:33,520 In that moment, I was like, wow, 771 00:38:33,560 --> 00:38:37,040 I feel like finally the man that I wanted has just showed up. 772 00:38:39,840 --> 00:38:41,800 But like I realise I need to reset. 773 00:38:43,000 --> 00:38:44,960 There's no point complaining about the past, 774 00:38:45,000 --> 00:38:48,800 like, ultimately I'm here to build a positive future with Ryan. 775 00:38:50,480 --> 00:38:52,160 And you got flowers. And I got my flowers. 776 00:38:54,200 --> 00:38:58,240 You're not machines. It's not simply magically going to be fixed. 777 00:38:58,280 --> 00:39:00,960 You not putting things under the rug and ignoring them. 778 00:39:01,000 --> 00:39:03,160 There's things that will need to be processed... 779 00:39:04,320 --> 00:39:05,800 ..regardless of the fact 780 00:39:05,840 --> 00:39:08,440 that you had chosen to hit that reset button. 781 00:39:09,200 --> 00:39:13,600 So, bear with me because I do want to go back to confessions week 782 00:39:13,640 --> 00:39:14,920 and the ranking challenge. 783 00:39:15,920 --> 00:39:18,880 Because it was a big topic last night at the dinner party 784 00:39:18,920 --> 00:39:22,080 because after having supposedly gotten over it 785 00:39:22,120 --> 00:39:24,000 and put it aside and continued on, 786 00:39:24,040 --> 00:39:27,560 it came up again in a strong way for you, Jacqui. 787 00:39:29,480 --> 00:39:32,400 I guess, having someone not put you first, 788 00:39:32,440 --> 00:39:37,320 that was a real challenge for me because, yeah, like, I've never... 789 00:39:38,120 --> 00:39:40,400 I've never been faced with a situation 790 00:39:40,440 --> 00:39:43,640 where I have to decide, am I OK with being third? 791 00:39:44,360 --> 00:39:47,680 If my husband put me third, I would hold that to the day I die. 792 00:39:48,520 --> 00:39:49,880 I wouldn't get over it. 793 00:39:51,440 --> 00:39:52,600 Yeah. 794 00:39:53,880 --> 00:39:54,760 Yeah. 795 00:39:56,080 --> 00:39:58,880 Ryan, look, I think you have to make your partner feel 796 00:39:58,920 --> 00:40:01,760 like she is the most special person everyday. 797 00:40:02,600 --> 00:40:04,480 Yes, special. Special. Correct. 798 00:40:04,520 --> 00:40:07,240 The word she used was beautiful. Alright? 799 00:40:07,280 --> 00:40:09,640 Take this opportunity and make her feel like that, man. 800 00:40:09,680 --> 00:40:11,560 Like, that's... This is - and that's the bottom line. 801 00:40:11,600 --> 00:40:13,560 Yeah, 'cause it's the most important thing to me, right? 802 00:40:13,600 --> 00:40:15,600 Like, I've said loyalty is my most important value. 803 00:40:16,200 --> 00:40:20,760 But, like, Ryan will put his own beliefs and ego before the loyalty. 804 00:40:21,560 --> 00:40:28,000 Jacqui, should Ryan have been dishonest and put you first, 805 00:40:28,040 --> 00:40:30,200 even though he did not think... 806 00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,920 ..you were the most attractive of the photos? 807 00:40:35,800 --> 00:40:37,880 I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest. 808 00:40:37,920 --> 00:40:40,080 I'm asking him to find a way to put me first. 809 00:40:40,120 --> 00:40:43,120 (FRANTIC MUSIC) 810 00:40:54,800 --> 00:40:56,600 I'm not asking Ryan to be dishonest. 811 00:40:56,640 --> 00:40:58,800 I'm asking him to find a way to put me first. 812 00:41:01,320 --> 00:41:03,840 S... I don't understand. 813 00:41:05,560 --> 00:41:06,800 How does that work? 814 00:41:07,600 --> 00:41:10,240 Well, I guess, I'd want him to find a way to think that. 815 00:41:14,000 --> 00:41:16,760 My question is how does that work, Jacqui? 816 00:41:17,360 --> 00:41:18,360 Putting me first. 817 00:41:18,400 --> 00:41:21,160 (CHUCKLES) Like, physically putting me first, yeah. 818 00:41:27,160 --> 00:41:28,680 But it's not about me. 819 00:41:28,720 --> 00:41:30,760 I think about my children. 820 00:41:34,720 --> 00:41:36,600 So, I don't need the validation. 821 00:41:36,640 --> 00:41:38,440 I... I'm happy with how I look. 822 00:41:38,480 --> 00:41:40,480 I'm happy with who I am as a person. 823 00:41:40,520 --> 00:41:45,160 But I don't necessarily want to be in the energy of someone 824 00:41:45,200 --> 00:41:46,520 who doesn't... 825 00:41:48,040 --> 00:41:50,960 ..do that for my children one day. 826 00:41:51,000 --> 00:41:53,600 I just have to show up double-time. 827 00:41:53,640 --> 00:41:55,400 I've got to be my own biggest cheerleader 828 00:41:55,440 --> 00:41:57,480 and that cheerleader for the people around me, 829 00:41:57,520 --> 00:41:59,000 and the children around me, 830 00:41:59,040 --> 00:42:01,560 and maybe compensate, maybe, for the blunt honesty 831 00:42:01,600 --> 00:42:03,040 and explain that, "He doesn't mean it that way. 832 00:42:03,080 --> 00:42:05,920 "He does love you", or, you know, like it's... 833 00:42:05,960 --> 00:42:07,440 And that's the solution I've got. 834 00:42:11,920 --> 00:42:14,520 I take your point that there are times down the road, 835 00:42:14,560 --> 00:42:16,920 a long way down the road, we're three weeks in, 836 00:42:16,960 --> 00:42:20,000 where those days will be critical to everyone's self-esteem, 837 00:42:20,040 --> 00:42:24,400 everyone's progress, and everyone's general harmony in the household. 838 00:42:28,840 --> 00:42:32,480 So, you're going to get that validation from me. 839 00:42:34,760 --> 00:42:37,760 Especially, my son, when he comes around. 840 00:42:50,040 --> 00:42:51,000 I'm sorry. 841 00:42:59,400 --> 00:43:00,640 I do believe you. 842 00:43:02,520 --> 00:43:03,400 Yeah? 843 00:43:05,560 --> 00:43:06,880 OK, I'm confused. 844 00:43:09,000 --> 00:43:10,200 Because... 845 00:43:12,840 --> 00:43:14,600 ..last night, Jacqui... Yes. 846 00:43:14,640 --> 00:43:19,360 ..when you were in the throes of, you know, emotion... 847 00:43:20,840 --> 00:43:23,160 Yeah. ..you said, 848 00:43:23,200 --> 00:43:25,840 "He's nothing I asked for." 849 00:43:27,680 --> 00:43:31,920 And now, you're talking about your future and your kids 850 00:43:31,960 --> 00:43:34,840 and, you know, you're affectionate on the couch 851 00:43:34,880 --> 00:43:37,240 and being very gentle with this person 852 00:43:37,280 --> 00:43:39,680 who you've told me is completely wrong for you. 853 00:43:41,600 --> 00:43:45,520 So, I need you to help me understand what the hell is going on. 854 00:43:48,040 --> 00:43:50,160 Yeah, so, like, obviously, I really care for Ryan. 855 00:43:50,720 --> 00:43:53,120 But, like, if we're being honest, 856 00:43:53,160 --> 00:43:55,680 I don't know if we would be compatible in the real world. 857 00:43:56,760 --> 00:43:58,760 Because we have different interests. 858 00:44:00,560 --> 00:44:02,880 Like, you know, I don't want to stop him from reading fiction books, 859 00:44:02,920 --> 00:44:04,600 and I want to keep reading non-fiction. 860 00:44:05,640 --> 00:44:06,880 Um, you know, like, he wants... Yeah, I didn't come 861 00:44:06,920 --> 00:44:07,960 into this experiment to change someone. 862 00:44:08,000 --> 00:44:09,680 ..to keep watching TV, I want to watch documentaries. 863 00:44:09,720 --> 00:44:12,040 But hold on. But hold on, Jacqui. Jacqui. 864 00:44:13,200 --> 00:44:18,400 We three see you as being exceedingly compatible. 865 00:44:20,480 --> 00:44:22,920 There's so... You guys, you guys have so much in common. 866 00:44:22,960 --> 00:44:25,480 You're getting caught in what's not working instead of what is. 867 00:44:28,480 --> 00:44:29,760 Jacqui. Yeah. 868 00:44:29,800 --> 00:44:31,480 Do you like Ryan? 869 00:44:31,520 --> 00:44:32,960 Yes. 870 00:44:33,000 --> 00:44:34,600 What do you like about him? 871 00:44:34,640 --> 00:44:37,280 He's got a lot of patience and tolerance. 872 00:44:37,320 --> 00:44:40,520 Somehow he managed to survive a week of me crying about everything. 873 00:44:41,520 --> 00:44:43,880 He can stand up for himself, he's very strong. 874 00:44:43,920 --> 00:44:46,840 Um... He has really nice eyes. 875 00:44:48,360 --> 00:44:52,520 And we've identified we both love the driving range and tennis, 876 00:44:52,560 --> 00:44:55,720 and we take cute photos together, like, we do have a lot of... 877 00:44:55,760 --> 00:44:59,040 We do have a nice collage going in the shrine. 878 00:44:59,080 --> 00:45:02,080 For somebody who's supposedly incompatible, 879 00:45:02,120 --> 00:45:04,840 your list is pretty extensive, Jacqui. 880 00:45:04,880 --> 00:45:06,120 Yeah. 881 00:45:07,880 --> 00:45:10,800 And Ryan, I'm curious, you. Do you like Jacqui? 882 00:45:10,840 --> 00:45:12,520 Yes. 883 00:45:12,560 --> 00:45:14,640 What is it about Jacqui that you like? 884 00:45:14,680 --> 00:45:17,360 She's done so much in her 29 years 885 00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:20,800 that other people in general wouldn't even get close to. 886 00:45:20,840 --> 00:45:23,400 And she does her best to be emotionally intelligent as well. 887 00:45:24,400 --> 00:45:26,080 And I like your eyes and I like your smile. 888 00:45:26,120 --> 00:45:27,240 Thank you. 889 00:45:28,880 --> 00:45:30,240 You're a very smart man. 890 00:45:31,160 --> 00:45:32,960 I know. (BOTH CHUCKLES) 891 00:45:33,720 --> 00:45:34,760 Yeah. 892 00:45:36,240 --> 00:45:38,960 OK. Are you feeling like you're a united front again? 893 00:45:39,760 --> 00:45:41,560 Yes. Yeah, yeah. 894 00:45:41,600 --> 00:45:42,600 I feel like we're on the same page. Yes. 895 00:45:42,640 --> 00:45:43,840 Yeah. Yes. 896 00:45:43,880 --> 00:45:45,440 I hope that's the case 897 00:45:45,480 --> 00:45:50,680 because honestly, the flip-flopping cannot be the vibe with you. 898 00:45:50,720 --> 00:45:52,920 It's not going to work if you continue flip-flopping 899 00:45:52,960 --> 00:45:54,040 the way you have been. 900 00:45:56,000 --> 00:45:59,200 Let's go to a decision. Ryan. 901 00:45:59,240 --> 00:46:00,960 I'd love to stick around. 902 00:46:03,680 --> 00:46:06,160 (APPLAUSE) 903 00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:07,720 And you, Jacqui. 904 00:46:08,560 --> 00:46:10,120 And "Stay." 905 00:46:10,160 --> 00:46:11,720 Beautiful. (APPLAUSE) 906 00:46:11,760 --> 00:46:13,040 Thank you, guys. 907 00:46:19,440 --> 00:46:20,920 NARRATOR: Still to come, 908 00:46:20,960 --> 00:46:22,960 Awhina has doubts. 909 00:46:23,000 --> 00:46:26,480 Do you feel like you want to be in a relationship with Adrian? 910 00:46:26,520 --> 00:46:27,840 Scary question. 911 00:46:35,720 --> 00:46:37,760 Our next couple on the couch tonight... 912 00:46:40,320 --> 00:46:41,440 Rhi and Jeff. 913 00:46:41,480 --> 00:46:42,440 Hey! 914 00:46:42,480 --> 00:46:43,880 How's the suspense? 915 00:46:45,720 --> 00:46:46,560 Hello. Hi, guys. 916 00:46:46,600 --> 00:46:47,440 Hi, guys. 917 00:46:47,480 --> 00:46:48,840 Hello. Hey, guys. 918 00:46:48,880 --> 00:46:49,840 Welcome. 919 00:46:49,880 --> 00:46:50,920 Thank you. Thank you. 920 00:46:51,520 --> 00:46:53,040 It's good to see you two. 921 00:46:53,080 --> 00:46:54,800 It looks like things are going pretty well. 922 00:46:55,320 --> 00:46:56,800 Yeah, things are going amazing. 923 00:46:57,400 --> 00:47:01,400 Like, Jeff is the most considerate partner ever. 924 00:47:02,200 --> 00:47:04,440 Like, I'll have a shower and I'll come out 925 00:47:04,480 --> 00:47:06,720 and he's made the bed, put a load of washing on, 926 00:47:06,760 --> 00:47:10,400 started making the coffee, sandwiches are made, 927 00:47:10,440 --> 00:47:13,120 like, he's steamed my dress. 928 00:47:13,160 --> 00:47:15,000 Rhi, stop there, please! 929 00:47:15,040 --> 00:47:16,360 (LAUGHTER) 930 00:47:16,400 --> 00:47:18,280 That's a keeper, right there. Yeah, yeah. 931 00:47:19,720 --> 00:47:22,760 I just feel so confident in who he is as a person... 932 00:47:24,120 --> 00:47:28,040 ..which - I don't know whether that's because of our history. 933 00:47:29,040 --> 00:47:31,680 Now, like, it just feels like more and more comfortable. 934 00:47:31,720 --> 00:47:33,600 You made reference to the fact 935 00:47:33,640 --> 00:47:35,800 that the two of you have dated in the past. 936 00:47:35,840 --> 00:47:37,840 Do you feel closer to Jeff this time round? 937 00:47:39,600 --> 00:47:41,920 100%. We've said that. 938 00:47:41,960 --> 00:47:42,920 Oh, it's worlds apart. 939 00:47:42,960 --> 00:47:45,840 Ooh, that's strong. Yeah, it's actually incredible. 940 00:47:45,880 --> 00:47:47,360 What's different, Rhi? 941 00:47:47,400 --> 00:47:49,360 I guess because we were both freshly out 942 00:47:49,400 --> 00:47:51,400 of, like, long-term relationships. 943 00:47:52,280 --> 00:47:54,920 We were just enjoying each other's company for what it was. 944 00:47:55,880 --> 00:48:00,160 But yeah, this experiment, like, I really do feel like I know Jeff. 945 00:48:01,840 --> 00:48:02,920 Jeff, we'll go to you. 946 00:48:02,960 --> 00:48:04,680 In terms of, you know, looking at the relationship 947 00:48:04,720 --> 00:48:05,800 where it's at now 948 00:48:05,840 --> 00:48:08,080 and maybe, you know, the next couple of steps ahead, 949 00:48:08,120 --> 00:48:10,000 what challenges are you seeing? 950 00:48:10,040 --> 00:48:12,600 I think the biggest challenge for us right now 951 00:48:12,640 --> 00:48:15,760 is that next step in the romantic side of the relationship. 952 00:48:15,800 --> 00:48:18,520 That everyone asks us all the time. Yeah. 953 00:48:18,560 --> 00:48:20,040 "Have you done it yet?" 954 00:48:20,080 --> 00:48:21,200 Yeah. (LAUGHTER) 955 00:48:21,240 --> 00:48:24,440 Our first relationship, it was probably - let's be honest, 956 00:48:24,480 --> 00:48:26,480 it was mainly physical and we had fun. 957 00:48:26,520 --> 00:48:29,760 So, we know the intimacy side of the relationship works. 958 00:48:30,640 --> 00:48:32,080 Obviously, confessions week, 959 00:48:32,120 --> 00:48:33,320 intimacy week, all these things 960 00:48:33,360 --> 00:48:37,480 unlock things within each other that we thought we'd never know... 961 00:48:37,520 --> 00:48:39,240 Yeah, yeah. ..I guess. 962 00:48:39,280 --> 00:48:42,280 So, yeah, I think we have a very sort of deep connection now 963 00:48:42,320 --> 00:48:44,480 and a deeper relationship, 964 00:48:44,520 --> 00:48:47,520 and as soon as we get past the little hurdle 965 00:48:47,560 --> 00:48:50,640 in the romantic side of the relationship, 966 00:48:50,680 --> 00:48:52,720 then I think we'll be in a pretty good spot. 967 00:48:54,280 --> 00:48:56,000 I don't think they should call it a little hurdle. 968 00:48:56,040 --> 00:48:58,440 Do you? No, no. Yeah, that's not good (INDISTINCT). 969 00:48:58,480 --> 00:48:59,800 (LAUGHTER) 970 00:48:59,840 --> 00:49:00,840 The little... Gift. 971 00:49:00,880 --> 00:49:02,480 The little... No, not so little. 972 00:49:02,520 --> 00:49:03,520 (LAUGHTER) 973 00:49:03,560 --> 00:49:04,800 The big gift. 974 00:49:06,720 --> 00:49:09,240 Alright. Well, we are going to go to a decision now. 975 00:49:09,280 --> 00:49:10,520 Rhi. Sure. 976 00:49:11,560 --> 00:49:12,880 "Stay." No hesitation. 977 00:49:12,920 --> 00:49:15,240 There it is. (LAUGHS) With kisses. 978 00:49:15,280 --> 00:49:16,480 (APPLAUSE) Lovely. 979 00:49:18,040 --> 00:49:18,960 And Jeff, to you. 980 00:49:21,200 --> 00:49:22,320 Stay with a smiley face. 981 00:49:22,360 --> 00:49:24,640 Smiley face too. Lovely. 982 00:49:24,680 --> 00:49:27,600 Wonderful. Well, keep doing what you're doing. 983 00:49:27,640 --> 00:49:29,920 Thanks. Thank you so much. Awesome. Thanks, guys. 984 00:49:29,960 --> 00:49:31,560 Thank you. Thank you. 985 00:49:31,600 --> 00:49:33,120 (APPLAUSE) 986 00:49:33,160 --> 00:49:35,160 Adrian, I'll take you through some lessons tomorrow, mate. 987 00:49:37,360 --> 00:49:40,280 (LAUGHTER) 988 00:49:40,320 --> 00:49:42,680 Alright, let's get our next couple up. 989 00:49:46,800 --> 00:49:47,840 Awhina and Adrian. 990 00:49:47,880 --> 00:49:50,040 (APPLAUSE) 991 00:49:53,200 --> 00:49:54,360 Hello, hello. Hello. 992 00:49:54,400 --> 00:49:55,360 Hi. Hello. 993 00:49:55,400 --> 00:49:56,360 Hi. 994 00:49:56,400 --> 00:49:59,080 Let's start with you first, Awhina. 995 00:49:59,840 --> 00:50:02,040 Look, Adrian and I have had a very trying week. 996 00:50:03,680 --> 00:50:07,600 I feel like I show up for Adrian daily 997 00:50:07,640 --> 00:50:09,760 in little acts and little gestures 998 00:50:09,800 --> 00:50:11,960 and kind comments 999 00:50:12,000 --> 00:50:14,360 and I've been feeling very unseen... 1000 00:50:15,680 --> 00:50:17,480 ..and from that, my... 1001 00:50:18,800 --> 00:50:20,440 You know, like, all the problems 1002 00:50:20,480 --> 00:50:23,320 that we chose to kind of sweep under the rug 1003 00:50:23,360 --> 00:50:25,520 have been feeling really heavy lately. 1004 00:50:28,560 --> 00:50:32,040 Can you explain how it is that you don't feel seen? 1005 00:50:33,440 --> 00:50:34,960 I just feel like... 1006 00:50:37,080 --> 00:50:38,680 This is going to sound silly, but... 1007 00:50:39,520 --> 00:50:40,480 (EXHALES) 1008 00:50:44,760 --> 00:50:46,640 Like, these little acts of services 1009 00:50:46,680 --> 00:50:48,360 like if I am folding your clothes 1010 00:50:48,400 --> 00:50:50,080 or if I am making the bed, 1011 00:50:50,120 --> 00:50:52,240 I know that Adrian... 1012 00:50:53,480 --> 00:50:55,480 Like, even when he made a comment the other day 1013 00:50:55,520 --> 00:50:56,800 that - when I was making the bed 1014 00:50:56,840 --> 00:50:58,920 and he said, "Oh, I thought a... 1015 00:50:58,960 --> 00:51:01,120 He goes, "Why are you doing that? A cleaner does that." 1016 00:51:02,080 --> 00:51:03,440 I genuinely thought that was the case 1017 00:51:03,480 --> 00:51:05,120 'cause the sheets were so tight in the bed. 1018 00:51:05,160 --> 00:51:08,320 That was just... I just thought it was like a hotel bed. 1019 00:51:10,960 --> 00:51:13,320 But that comment made me feel very unappreciated. 1020 00:51:16,480 --> 00:51:19,680 And when I don't feel like I'm getting that from him, 1021 00:51:19,720 --> 00:51:22,840 that it makes me hard for me not to look to the future. 1022 00:51:25,000 --> 00:51:27,320 How is Adrian going to fit into my life... 1023 00:51:28,200 --> 00:51:30,080 ..when I am a mum? 1024 00:51:30,120 --> 00:51:32,680 That's when I start feeling like we're not compatible... 1025 00:51:33,760 --> 00:51:35,200 ..outside of this experiment. 1026 00:51:39,440 --> 00:51:42,640 Adrian, right now, Awhina's opening her heart 1027 00:51:42,680 --> 00:51:44,400 and sharing some stuff 1028 00:51:44,440 --> 00:51:46,720 that must be pretty hard to talk about, 1029 00:51:46,760 --> 00:51:48,760 and you're sitting here looking at the roof. 1030 00:51:51,560 --> 00:51:53,640 And now you're smirking and looking at the boys. 1031 00:51:56,040 --> 00:51:57,920 I'm starting to understand how you might feel 1032 00:51:57,960 --> 00:52:00,080 that Adrian's not listening to you. 1033 00:52:00,600 --> 00:52:01,640 I was listening. 1034 00:52:05,920 --> 00:52:08,280 I'm just reflecting that back to you 1035 00:52:08,320 --> 00:52:10,440 because that has an impact on your partner. 1036 00:52:10,480 --> 00:52:11,760 Yeah, and I understand that. 1037 00:52:12,840 --> 00:52:13,720 Do you? 1038 00:52:13,760 --> 00:52:14,720 Yeah, I do. 1039 00:52:15,400 --> 00:52:18,120 But how do you think that makes her feel when you do that? 1040 00:52:18,680 --> 00:52:20,160 Unseen. 1041 00:52:22,800 --> 00:52:24,920 Awhina, do you feel like you bring up issues with Adrian? 1042 00:52:25,640 --> 00:52:28,640 I feel like sometimes when I address problems or issues, 1043 00:52:28,680 --> 00:52:29,880 you'll shut me down. 1044 00:52:29,920 --> 00:52:31,120 Like what? 1045 00:52:32,920 --> 00:52:34,640 When I say things that you're unhappy with, 1046 00:52:34,680 --> 00:52:36,840 I feel like I don't have a voice anymore and I... 1047 00:52:36,880 --> 00:52:37,880 'Cause I just want - 1048 00:52:37,920 --> 00:52:39,120 explain to me one thing that I've done that for. 1049 00:52:39,160 --> 00:52:41,040 You said just then when we were having the conversation 1050 00:52:41,080 --> 00:52:43,560 when we do these tasks... Well, she mentioned today 1051 00:52:43,600 --> 00:52:46,400 she's been talking about how we are not compatible. 1052 00:52:47,400 --> 00:52:48,840 Why would I do any of these things now? 1053 00:52:48,880 --> 00:52:50,280 Why would I want to show up? 1054 00:52:51,560 --> 00:52:52,920 Because you're telling me we've got no future, 1055 00:52:52,960 --> 00:52:53,920 so what's the point? 1056 00:52:56,040 --> 00:52:58,600 I'm not an affectionate type of person and... 1057 00:52:58,640 --> 00:53:03,640 OK. Adrian, what you're doing there is the problem. 1058 00:53:05,040 --> 00:53:06,520 And I am going to call you on it. 1059 00:53:07,200 --> 00:53:08,160 That's fine. 1060 00:53:09,080 --> 00:53:10,480 I watched you do it last night, 1061 00:53:10,520 --> 00:53:12,240 she's trying to tell you about her feelings, 1062 00:53:12,280 --> 00:53:15,000 and you come in hard and you shut it down. 1063 00:53:16,600 --> 00:53:19,760 Has that ever been said to you before? 1064 00:53:19,800 --> 00:53:21,880 That you shut people down if they bring up an issue? 1065 00:53:21,920 --> 00:53:23,080 No. 1066 00:53:24,840 --> 00:53:28,600 Do you think that you see and hear and validate Awhina? 1067 00:53:30,440 --> 00:53:32,680 Yeah, I mean, this past week, no. 1068 00:53:34,440 --> 00:53:36,200 But you're only telling one part of this story. 1069 00:53:36,240 --> 00:53:38,320 Now, everyone should hear both sides of the story. 1070 00:53:38,360 --> 00:53:40,960 Adrian, that's the real issue 1071 00:53:41,000 --> 00:53:44,320 is that when she brings up a problem, 1072 00:53:44,360 --> 00:53:46,440 you push back and shut down. 1073 00:53:47,520 --> 00:53:50,040 That is not turning up for her, it's not validating her. 1074 00:53:51,120 --> 00:53:52,520 Do you understand that? Yeah. 1075 00:53:54,080 --> 00:53:56,520 She's saying, "I'm bringing up issues and he's not validating me." 1076 00:53:56,560 --> 00:53:58,400 But she also does that as well. 1077 00:53:58,440 --> 00:54:00,040 'Cause it's like, again, when I say anything... 1078 00:54:00,080 --> 00:54:01,640 But now you're in point-scoring. 1079 00:54:01,680 --> 00:54:03,240 No, it's not about point-scoring. 1080 00:54:03,280 --> 00:54:05,360 Adrian, I'm telling you right now 1081 00:54:05,400 --> 00:54:07,840 that you have to win every argument. 1082 00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:08,800 I don't. 1083 00:54:08,840 --> 00:54:09,960 This is what you're doing. 1084 00:54:12,960 --> 00:54:14,880 And this is why she's going to turn her attention 1085 00:54:14,920 --> 00:54:16,160 to, "We're not compatible." 1086 00:54:18,160 --> 00:54:20,120 She doesn't want you to argue with her. 1087 00:54:20,960 --> 00:54:22,920 You're going to fail if you do that. 1088 00:54:23,720 --> 00:54:27,920 What she wants you to do is to listen and validate her. 1089 00:54:28,560 --> 00:54:29,560 And I have done that. 1090 00:54:30,880 --> 00:54:35,960 Adrian, I need to know from you right now in this moment. 1091 00:54:36,000 --> 00:54:38,920 Do you want to be in a relationship with Awhina? 1092 00:54:43,160 --> 00:54:45,760 Of course, I do. 100%, yes. 1093 00:54:49,480 --> 00:54:51,120 Now, Awhina, 1094 00:54:51,160 --> 00:54:55,040 do you feel like you want to be in a relationship with Adrian? 1095 00:54:55,080 --> 00:54:58,080 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1096 00:55:00,080 --> 00:55:02,480 We have some really great times where I... 1097 00:55:02,520 --> 00:55:06,000 No, no, no, it is a straightforward yes or no. 1098 00:55:07,560 --> 00:55:09,200 It shouldn't be a hard answer. 1099 00:55:09,240 --> 00:55:12,000 Do you want to be in a relationship with Adrian? 1100 00:55:13,440 --> 00:55:15,680 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1101 00:55:17,080 --> 00:55:18,680 Scary question. 1102 00:55:18,720 --> 00:55:20,280 It is scary, I give you that. 1103 00:55:20,320 --> 00:55:23,320 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1104 00:55:28,560 --> 00:55:30,760 (DRAMATIC MUSIC BUILDING) 1105 00:55:37,640 --> 00:55:40,840 No, no, no, it is a straightforward yes or no. 1106 00:55:42,440 --> 00:55:44,040 It shouldn't be a hard answer. 1107 00:55:44,080 --> 00:55:46,840 Do you want to be in a relationship with Adrian? 1108 00:55:46,880 --> 00:55:49,880 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1109 00:55:51,840 --> 00:55:53,440 Scary question. 1110 00:55:53,480 --> 00:55:55,440 It is scary, I give you that. 1111 00:55:55,480 --> 00:55:58,480 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1112 00:56:03,440 --> 00:56:06,440 (MUSIC BUILDING) 1113 00:56:09,440 --> 00:56:10,880 I'm going to say, I think I do. 1114 00:56:14,520 --> 00:56:15,840 What's going on inside? 1115 00:56:17,360 --> 00:56:19,640 (TENDER MUSIC) 1116 00:56:23,560 --> 00:56:25,240 They are hard questions. 1117 00:56:26,760 --> 00:56:28,280 And you're scared. 1118 00:56:28,320 --> 00:56:29,560 Yeah, and I'm scared. 1119 00:56:29,600 --> 00:56:31,480 What scares you the most right now? 1120 00:56:33,480 --> 00:56:34,680 I guess... 1121 00:56:35,760 --> 00:56:37,000 When I think about 1122 00:56:37,040 --> 00:56:39,240 how I'm not looking for a life partner for myself, 1123 00:56:39,280 --> 00:56:43,080 I'm looking for a potential future stepdad for my son. 1124 00:56:44,920 --> 00:56:47,600 It's so heavy that it's crashing down on me. 1125 00:56:48,760 --> 00:56:51,560 But that's when fear starts from rearing its ugly head, I guess. 1126 00:56:52,800 --> 00:56:54,720 And that's when I start saying things like, 1127 00:56:54,760 --> 00:56:56,120 "I don't feel like we are compatible." 1128 00:56:57,360 --> 00:57:00,200 But in saying that, like, Adrian is a really great guy. 1129 00:57:00,240 --> 00:57:02,920 I am very comfortable with him, we do have really great chemistry, 1130 00:57:02,960 --> 00:57:04,720 we do have a great physical connection. 1131 00:57:04,760 --> 00:57:05,640 Yeah. 1132 00:57:05,680 --> 00:57:08,960 I just need to feel a little bit more seen as a partner. 1133 00:57:10,360 --> 00:57:12,040 And then I won't be making these - 1134 00:57:12,080 --> 00:57:14,000 but I know I shouldn't be making these comments, 1135 00:57:14,040 --> 00:57:17,040 but it's how I feel when I - and I'm reactive to my emotions, 1136 00:57:17,080 --> 00:57:18,800 you know, in the moment. 1137 00:57:18,840 --> 00:57:20,560 Did you hear that? 1138 00:57:20,600 --> 00:57:21,920 Yeah. 1139 00:57:21,960 --> 00:57:24,960 (TENDER SOUNDTRACK) 1140 00:57:30,080 --> 00:57:32,960 I am sorry that I say things that hurt Adrian. 1141 00:57:36,440 --> 00:57:38,680 Alright, let's go to the decision. 1142 00:57:38,720 --> 00:57:40,600 First up, let's go with you, Awhina. 1143 00:57:45,040 --> 00:57:46,240 There we go. Oh, there it is. 1144 00:57:46,840 --> 00:57:48,120 Lovely. Thank you. 1145 00:57:48,160 --> 00:57:51,040 (APPLAUSE) 1146 00:57:51,920 --> 00:57:53,680 Adrian, stay or leave? What you got? 1147 00:57:53,720 --> 00:57:56,160 I don't know how to spell leave, so I said stay. 1148 00:57:56,200 --> 00:57:59,320 (APPLAUSE) 1149 00:58:00,240 --> 00:58:01,880 What you need to really hear, Adrian, 1150 00:58:01,920 --> 00:58:04,960 is that she wants to be here but she's scared. 1151 00:58:06,040 --> 00:58:09,280 Which means more validation, more reassurance. 1152 00:58:09,320 --> 00:58:10,320 Agreed. 1153 00:58:10,360 --> 00:58:12,520 Just tell me I'm the most beautiful girl in the world every day. 1154 00:58:12,560 --> 00:58:14,080 I'm kidding, guys. (LAUGHTER) 1155 00:58:14,120 --> 00:58:16,280 And less defensiveness. Yeah. 1156 00:58:16,320 --> 00:58:18,720 Alright, guys, you can go back to the group. 1157 00:58:20,120 --> 00:58:21,960 Thank you. (APPLAUSE) 1158 00:58:23,800 --> 00:58:25,480 Well done, guys. 1159 00:58:29,160 --> 00:58:32,040 And our last couple up on the couch is... 1160 00:58:33,560 --> 00:58:35,400 ..Sierah and Billy. 1161 00:58:35,440 --> 00:58:37,240 (APPLAUSE) 1162 00:58:40,160 --> 00:58:41,360 Hello, hello. 1163 00:58:41,400 --> 00:58:42,640 Hello. Hello, you two. 1164 00:58:42,680 --> 00:58:43,600 Hi. How are you? Hello. How are you? 1165 00:58:43,640 --> 00:58:44,760 Very well. We're well. 1166 00:58:50,560 --> 00:58:54,200 Watching you tonight, I think what comes through very clearly 1167 00:58:54,240 --> 00:58:56,040 is that something's going on 1168 00:58:56,080 --> 00:59:00,360 and that's, you know, getting in between the two of you, 1169 00:59:00,400 --> 00:59:03,480 so let's just cut straight through it. What's happening? 1170 00:59:03,520 --> 00:59:05,360 Are you feeling disconnected as a couple? 1171 00:59:06,080 --> 00:59:07,440 Yeah. Yeah. 1172 00:59:07,480 --> 00:59:10,800 Tell us about that. Where do you think the disconnect is? 1173 00:59:14,880 --> 00:59:18,200 I have to be honest with you, I just feel very confused 1174 00:59:18,240 --> 00:59:19,480 about the place we're in right now. 1175 00:59:20,480 --> 00:59:24,640 Because when we had sex on the honeymoon, 1176 00:59:24,680 --> 00:59:30,760 we kind of dropped straight off and I felt a bit... 1177 00:59:32,400 --> 00:59:34,760 ..like we maybe rushed into that, or we both did. 1178 00:59:34,800 --> 00:59:36,000 Yeah, definitely. 1179 00:59:36,800 --> 00:59:40,440 But then last night, we've had sex again. 1180 00:59:44,600 --> 00:59:50,160 So, last night, you chose to bring sex back into the equation. 1181 00:59:52,720 --> 00:59:55,480 So, I wanted it to happen at the right time 1182 00:59:55,520 --> 00:59:57,560 and it felt like it happened at the right time, 1183 00:59:57,600 --> 00:59:59,960 and then, I guess, it feels like we're back 1184 01:00:00,000 --> 01:00:02,360 in a kind of similar spot on the honeymoon... 1185 01:00:03,320 --> 01:00:06,720 ..where we've dropped off again and I'm, like, is it just like... 1186 01:00:07,720 --> 01:00:10,000 My head's - cogs are turning, 1187 01:00:10,040 --> 01:00:12,000 is it, like, is it just a sexual thing? 1188 01:00:12,040 --> 01:00:16,520 'Cause Sierah is quite, like, sexual as a whole, like... 1189 01:00:17,920 --> 01:00:19,840 And I'm just not like that. 1190 01:00:19,880 --> 01:00:21,880 Mine's about, like, what's in here. 1191 01:00:23,880 --> 01:00:25,680 An emotional connection is massive for me... 1192 01:00:27,040 --> 01:00:30,840 ..and I'm trying to build that, really, before other things. 1193 01:00:35,280 --> 01:00:37,680 Um, I'm being pretty open with Billy 1194 01:00:37,720 --> 01:00:39,600 that I need more physical touch. 1195 01:00:40,440 --> 01:00:43,160 And it's not just about the sex. 1196 01:00:43,200 --> 01:00:45,160 Like, holding my hand, putting your arm over me, 1197 01:00:45,200 --> 01:00:47,720 like, playing with my hair, like just touching me. 1198 01:00:48,680 --> 01:00:50,120 I mean, I feel like we're getting there, 1199 01:00:50,160 --> 01:00:52,240 that's what I thought anyway. 1200 01:00:52,280 --> 01:00:53,480 But... I don't. 1201 01:00:53,520 --> 01:00:54,400 Like, that's the problem. 1202 01:00:56,640 --> 01:00:58,200 And I get the emotional bond thing. 1203 01:00:58,240 --> 01:01:00,880 I want that too and I think we have a pretty good bond so far, 1204 01:01:00,920 --> 01:01:02,360 but it's a friends thing. 1205 01:01:02,400 --> 01:01:06,080 Last night, it was like a drunken fumble in my opinion. 1206 01:01:11,920 --> 01:01:13,640 It was quite slow, it was passionate. 1207 01:01:13,680 --> 01:01:15,840 It was - I felt connected to you. 1208 01:01:18,000 --> 01:01:20,000 Yeah. I enjoyed it and I felt close to Billy 1209 01:01:20,040 --> 01:01:22,120 and I like having sex with Billy because it's Billy. 1210 01:01:22,880 --> 01:01:23,840 But, like, it wasn't... 1211 01:01:24,480 --> 01:01:25,320 Um... 1212 01:01:26,000 --> 01:01:27,160 For me, I'm like, that just didn't feel 1213 01:01:27,200 --> 01:01:28,840 very passionate or intimate to me, you know? 1214 01:01:28,880 --> 01:01:31,040 Well, I felt like we were connecting. 1215 01:01:31,080 --> 01:01:33,000 Yeah, I just think I'm just finding it... 1216 01:01:33,640 --> 01:01:36,680 Like, I just do often feel confused about, like, where I'm at 1217 01:01:36,720 --> 01:01:38,720 with, like, my feelings and stuff like that 1218 01:01:38,760 --> 01:01:40,520 because I do feel like it's quite fleeting. 1219 01:01:40,560 --> 01:01:42,680 I do think that I do really like Billy sometimes 1220 01:01:42,720 --> 01:01:44,160 and I've actually got feelings, and then... 1221 01:01:45,400 --> 01:01:47,200 It's like, and then sometimes I just don't. 1222 01:01:48,840 --> 01:01:51,240 I think it's just because I'm not getting my needs met at all. 1223 01:01:52,040 --> 01:01:53,480 OK. 1224 01:01:57,680 --> 01:02:00,680 What are you doing to help build the emotional connection with Billy? 1225 01:02:00,720 --> 01:02:04,600 Billy has expressed for a while now his need for emotional connection. 1226 01:02:05,600 --> 01:02:08,200 I think that we obviously still need to speak more 1227 01:02:08,240 --> 01:02:10,280 about, like, things that have happened in my past. 1228 01:02:10,320 --> 01:02:13,800 I just find that difficult in this environment. 1229 01:02:14,600 --> 01:02:18,080 And it's just a bit (BLEEP) up, I guess, 1230 01:02:18,120 --> 01:02:20,080 and it's hard for me to talk about, so... 1231 01:02:20,960 --> 01:02:24,160 No, but Alessandra's asking what do you think you've done 1232 01:02:24,200 --> 01:02:25,160 to build the emotional connection? 1233 01:02:25,200 --> 01:02:26,560 But you'd said to me that you, 1234 01:02:26,600 --> 01:02:29,000 to build the emotional connection, you need me to open up more 1235 01:02:29,040 --> 01:02:32,520 about that, but I'm explaining why I actually can't do that. 1236 01:02:34,360 --> 01:02:37,000 You know how important family is to me. It's my biggest thing, 1237 01:02:37,040 --> 01:02:38,960 and you've said a few times, 1238 01:02:39,000 --> 01:02:40,560 "Oh, yeah, I'll tell you, like, I'll tell you, I'll pull you, 1239 01:02:40,600 --> 01:02:42,560 "and I'll tell you whenever..." 1240 01:02:43,240 --> 01:02:44,960 We're still four weeks down the line and I don't know, 1241 01:02:45,000 --> 01:02:47,200 and I'm like, yeah. 1242 01:02:47,240 --> 01:02:50,240 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1243 01:02:52,360 --> 01:02:55,560 I was hoping that because I've been so open with you, 1244 01:02:55,600 --> 01:02:57,720 you would... Like, you don't have to repay that, 1245 01:02:57,760 --> 01:03:00,040 you don't have to, but just, you see, I mean, 1246 01:03:00,080 --> 01:03:01,880 you've seen me literally break down. 1247 01:03:01,920 --> 01:03:05,320 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1248 01:03:05,360 --> 01:03:09,360 Sierah, have you opened up to anybody else in the group about your past 1249 01:03:09,400 --> 01:03:10,800 and past experiences? 1250 01:03:11,760 --> 01:03:12,920 Ah... 1251 01:03:12,960 --> 01:03:15,880 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1252 01:03:18,720 --> 01:03:20,400 Adrian, actually, I had. 1253 01:03:20,440 --> 01:03:23,200 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1254 01:03:23,240 --> 01:03:25,280 BILLY: Sorry? What? 1255 01:03:32,840 --> 01:03:35,840 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1256 01:03:37,680 --> 01:03:40,920 Sierah, have you opened up to anybody else in the group 1257 01:03:40,960 --> 01:03:43,040 about your past and past experiences? 1258 01:03:44,600 --> 01:03:45,720 Ah... 1259 01:03:45,760 --> 01:03:48,760 (TENSE MUSIC BUILDING) 1260 01:03:50,840 --> 01:03:52,960 Ash and Adrian, actually, I had. 1261 01:03:53,000 --> 01:03:56,040 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1262 01:03:56,080 --> 01:03:58,000 BILLY: Sorry? What? 1263 01:04:01,400 --> 01:04:02,360 About your past? 1264 01:04:02,400 --> 01:04:03,400 Yeah, I told you. 1265 01:04:03,440 --> 01:04:04,400 I told you about this. I didn't know about... 1266 01:04:04,440 --> 01:04:05,280 A couple of weeks ago. 1267 01:04:05,320 --> 01:04:06,240 I don't even know about your past. 1268 01:04:08,200 --> 01:04:10,560 'Cause it was at our apartment when you were watching the footy. 1269 01:04:11,480 --> 01:04:13,200 I thought I had told you that night... 1270 01:04:14,000 --> 01:04:15,880 ..that we had shared some stuff. 1271 01:04:18,040 --> 01:04:19,000 Tell me what? 1272 01:04:19,040 --> 01:04:21,280 What... I don't know what you're on about. 1273 01:04:21,320 --> 01:04:24,320 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1274 01:04:25,160 --> 01:04:26,440 I had told you about the conversation 1275 01:04:26,480 --> 01:04:27,720 Adrian and I had had... 1276 01:04:27,760 --> 01:04:29,600 Yeah, but what was it about? 1277 01:04:29,640 --> 01:04:31,760 I don't know, I don't know what this past comment is. 1278 01:04:31,800 --> 01:04:33,440 I don't know what you're on about. 1279 01:04:38,120 --> 01:04:39,080 Um... 1280 01:04:39,120 --> 01:04:41,280 You've shared more with him then you have me? 1281 01:04:41,320 --> 01:04:42,400 I literally had told you this. 1282 01:04:43,480 --> 01:04:45,640 Sierah, you have - I swear on my little brother's life, 1283 01:04:45,680 --> 01:04:47,480 you have not mentioned anything about it. 1284 01:04:50,120 --> 01:04:51,800 But for me, it's the circumstances. 1285 01:04:53,080 --> 01:04:55,560 I don't like feeling forced or like I have to do something. 1286 01:04:56,800 --> 01:04:59,320 Adrian, you were there, obviously. Yeah. 1287 01:04:59,360 --> 01:05:00,760 But do you remember... 1288 01:05:04,520 --> 01:05:06,480 ..talking about our past and I spoke to Sierah. 1289 01:05:07,600 --> 01:05:11,080 And I was, like... How I found it so hard and why I didn't do it... 1290 01:05:16,120 --> 01:05:17,560 And she felt the same. 1291 01:05:18,480 --> 01:05:19,360 So... 1292 01:05:21,840 --> 01:05:25,320 Yeah, the conversation started and we spoke about it, and... 1293 01:05:25,360 --> 01:05:26,360 Did you open up? 1294 01:05:26,400 --> 01:05:28,160 Yeah. Oh... 1295 01:05:28,200 --> 01:05:30,840 (DARKLY DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1296 01:05:38,280 --> 01:05:39,880 Well, I just feel very confused 1297 01:05:39,920 --> 01:05:45,520 that if she's shared that someone else in the group, but not to me, 1298 01:05:45,560 --> 01:05:47,520 I asked you multiple times along the honeymoon 1299 01:05:47,560 --> 01:05:49,320 over the first three or four days 1300 01:05:49,360 --> 01:05:51,240 and I just decided to leave it 'cause you said 1301 01:05:51,280 --> 01:05:52,480 when you're comfortable you will, 1302 01:05:52,520 --> 01:05:53,880 but you've been more comfortable with Adrian than you have me. 1303 01:05:56,200 --> 01:05:57,880 That's very confusing to me. 1304 01:05:59,680 --> 01:06:04,560 I've shared so much about past with you 1305 01:06:04,600 --> 01:06:06,280 and nobody else in the group. 1306 01:06:08,240 --> 01:06:10,960 What I wrote in that letter in confessions week, 1307 01:06:11,000 --> 01:06:12,880 I broke down that night. 1308 01:06:13,760 --> 01:06:19,280 I broke down and I revisited something I thought I put away. 1309 01:06:21,680 --> 01:06:22,920 And I was... 1310 01:06:24,920 --> 01:06:26,640 That was a lot for me and you know it was. 1311 01:06:31,280 --> 01:06:34,360 So, that was a pretty big thing that I did. 1312 01:06:35,480 --> 01:06:39,880 And the fact that it doesn't feel reciprocated 1313 01:06:39,920 --> 01:06:41,120 coming off that, 1314 01:06:41,160 --> 01:06:43,160 but you can with someone else 1315 01:06:43,200 --> 01:06:45,560 is very, very strange and confusing to me. 1316 01:06:48,280 --> 01:06:49,280 Can you understand 1317 01:06:49,320 --> 01:06:51,840 why Billy's feeling clearly blindsided at the moment? 1318 01:06:52,760 --> 01:06:53,760 Yeah. 1319 01:06:57,400 --> 01:06:58,760 I feel blindsided too though. 1320 01:06:58,800 --> 01:07:01,800 (TENSE SOUNDTRACK) 1321 01:07:04,600 --> 01:07:06,920 'Cause Adrian said he opened up, too, 1322 01:07:06,960 --> 01:07:09,200 which he didn't open up during our confessions week to me. 1323 01:07:11,400 --> 01:07:14,800 And then, like, you know, to find out that he opened up so easily 1324 01:07:14,840 --> 01:07:18,640 with someone else, that's like, that's a big 'F-you' to the face. 1325 01:07:18,680 --> 01:07:21,560 Same. Same. 1326 01:07:22,160 --> 01:07:23,680 I'm not trying to come for you, Sierah. 1327 01:07:23,720 --> 01:07:25,720 This is how I feel against Adrian. 1328 01:07:25,760 --> 01:07:26,680 I'm like... 1329 01:07:26,720 --> 01:07:28,720 I was really upset that night. 1330 01:07:28,760 --> 01:07:31,120 Yeah, I understand that. I'm sorry. 1331 01:07:31,160 --> 01:07:33,040 What about me? 1332 01:07:39,840 --> 01:07:41,560 But you have opened up 1333 01:07:41,600 --> 01:07:43,080 to Awhina at some point. No, he hasn't. No. 1334 01:07:43,920 --> 01:07:45,520 About any... We'll I'd be... 1335 01:07:45,560 --> 01:07:47,640 I mean, I dunno, I feel like... 1336 01:07:47,680 --> 01:07:49,480 In me and Sierah's defence, 1337 01:07:49,520 --> 01:07:51,600 we didn't have 50 million cameras around us 1338 01:07:51,640 --> 01:07:54,880 talking about certain things and I wouldn't be comfortable... 1339 01:07:54,920 --> 01:07:56,320 I'm sorry, but that's a cop-out. 1340 01:07:56,360 --> 01:07:59,320 (DRAMATIC MUSIC) 1341 01:08:01,360 --> 01:08:03,440 That's a cop-out because the cameras are not there at night 1342 01:08:03,480 --> 01:08:04,600 when you're sleeping next to each other. 1343 01:08:13,080 --> 01:08:14,680 In me and Sierah's defence, 1344 01:08:14,720 --> 01:08:16,960 we didn't have 50 million cameras around us 1345 01:08:17,000 --> 01:08:20,080 talking about certain things and I wouldn't be comfortable... 1346 01:08:20,120 --> 01:08:22,400 I'm sorry, but that's a cop-out. 1347 01:08:26,320 --> 01:08:28,280 That's a cop-out because the cameras are not there at night 1348 01:08:28,320 --> 01:08:30,320 when you're sleeping next to each other. 1349 01:08:36,320 --> 01:08:39,000 Sierah, why do you feel more comfortable 1350 01:08:39,040 --> 01:08:41,920 talking to Adrian than with Billy? 1351 01:08:43,240 --> 01:08:44,120 I don't know. 1352 01:08:44,160 --> 01:08:46,800 I just - I don't know why I'm struggling to do that so much. 1353 01:08:48,240 --> 01:08:51,240 I just don't want him to be put off or think that I'm damaged goods. 1354 01:08:51,280 --> 01:08:52,520 I think that's probably a big thing. 1355 01:08:53,280 --> 01:08:54,600 (SIGHS) 1356 01:08:54,640 --> 01:08:55,520 That's pretty harsh. 1357 01:08:56,440 --> 01:08:57,400 Hmm. 1358 01:08:58,600 --> 01:09:00,080 But I wouldn't think that. 1359 01:09:00,120 --> 01:09:01,080 If you were being open with me, 1360 01:09:01,120 --> 01:09:02,560 I'm not going to think you're damaged goods. 1361 01:09:02,600 --> 01:09:04,680 I'd just - I'd take the fact of you wanting to open up 1362 01:09:04,720 --> 01:09:06,640 on a deeper connection to me, which is what I want. 1363 01:09:08,280 --> 01:09:09,480 Can you pass me a tissue, please? 1364 01:09:14,600 --> 01:09:16,520 I think it's pretty clear 1365 01:09:16,560 --> 01:09:19,880 that the emotional connection needs a lot of work... 1366 01:09:19,920 --> 01:09:22,120 Yeah. ..and in order for that to happen, 1367 01:09:22,160 --> 01:09:25,080 you need to have the courage to take this step, 1368 01:09:25,120 --> 01:09:27,240 to start sharing those difficult... 1369 01:09:27,280 --> 01:09:29,200 Yep. ..topics. 1370 01:09:29,240 --> 01:09:30,480 Yeah. 1371 01:09:31,640 --> 01:09:33,040 It's hard, so... 1372 01:09:34,360 --> 01:09:38,920 But... Yeah, OK. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Yeah. 1373 01:09:38,960 --> 01:09:41,320 So, there's some work to be done here. 1374 01:09:41,360 --> 01:09:43,400 We're going to go to the decision. 1375 01:09:43,440 --> 01:09:44,480 Thank god. 1376 01:09:45,360 --> 01:09:46,440 (CHUCKLES FEEBLY) 1377 01:09:47,560 --> 01:09:48,680 Billy. 1378 01:09:50,040 --> 01:09:50,840 Yeah, I mean... 1379 01:09:52,720 --> 01:09:53,840 I'm saying. 1380 01:09:53,880 --> 01:09:56,280 (APPLAUSE) 1381 01:09:57,720 --> 01:09:59,000 Sierah. 1382 01:09:59,960 --> 01:10:04,280 I would like to stay another week to open up to Billy 1383 01:10:04,320 --> 01:10:06,720 and have the opportunity to have the conversations 1384 01:10:06,760 --> 01:10:08,880 that we need to have. 1385 01:10:08,920 --> 01:10:10,880 (APPLAUSE) 1386 01:10:11,960 --> 01:10:13,160 You can go back to the couch. Thank you. 1387 01:10:14,040 --> 01:10:16,640 (APPLAUSE) 1388 01:10:22,560 --> 01:10:25,120 VOICEOVER: A new chapter of love 1389 01:10:25,160 --> 01:10:26,520 is here. 1390 01:10:26,560 --> 01:10:28,840 I want to be a success story for this experiment. 1391 01:10:28,880 --> 01:10:30,840 I want a wife forever. 1392 01:10:30,880 --> 01:10:35,160 The most special day of their lives. 1393 01:10:35,200 --> 01:10:36,120 Hi! 1394 01:10:36,160 --> 01:10:37,320 Very fit. 1395 01:10:37,360 --> 01:10:38,880 Very fit. (LAUGHS) 1396 01:10:38,920 --> 01:10:39,720 I love it! 1397 01:10:39,760 --> 01:10:42,120 Their fairytale moment... 1398 01:10:42,160 --> 01:10:44,200 RYAN: After their beautiful vows 1399 01:10:44,240 --> 01:10:46,640 Jacqui leaned over to me and tried to give me a lecture. 1400 01:10:47,480 --> 01:10:48,600 ..hijacked. 1401 01:10:48,640 --> 01:10:50,400 JACQUI: Take note, Ryan. 1402 01:10:50,440 --> 01:10:53,440 Dude, you made those promises to me. 1403 01:10:53,480 --> 01:10:55,160 I'm frankly so disgusted with you right now. 1404 01:10:55,200 --> 01:10:57,040 Hold on very... 1405 01:10:57,080 --> 01:10:58,320 Why was I crying this morning? 1406 01:10:58,360 --> 01:11:00,360 You cry if there's not a full-length mirror in the room. 1407 01:11:00,400 --> 01:11:02,040 ..very tight. 1408 01:11:02,080 --> 01:11:03,920 (SOBBING) I can't deal with you. 1409 01:11:03,960 --> 01:11:05,440 (SOBBING) 1410 01:11:05,480 --> 01:11:06,680 I am upset! 1411 01:11:06,720 --> 01:11:08,440 Jacqui, Jacqui. It's not-it's not your wedding. 1412 01:11:08,480 --> 01:11:10,080 Get a grip, come on sweetie. 1413 01:11:10,120 --> 01:11:11,160 And... 1414 01:11:13,400 --> 01:11:15,320 ..for a second chance 1415 01:11:15,360 --> 01:11:16,680 at love? 1416 01:11:16,720 --> 01:11:19,640 The unmissable new weddings...